What should do...need advice on how to deal with ex boyfriend

ok so about two months ago my boyfriend of about a year and a half broke up wit me. he says he still wants to be friends and still wants to talk to me, so i talk to him occasionly on aim,but i dont really call him that much, so yesterday im talkin to him on aim and hes like ';why dont u call me no more, i thought we was gonna be close friends?'; he still tries to act like were in a relationship, while im tryin to move on, i told him please stop acting like were in a relationship and this is wat he said ';but why cant i act like were in a relationship i want the same emotional connection wit u'; so im like wat..u broke up wit me, then he says ';well i still love u and stuff its just that from vigiorus research and hours of sleepless nights i found out that every girl wants to be carry bradshaw, and mow the loan, (if u get my drift) so since this a morally bankrupt society i dont wanna put myself out there and end up gettin hurt'; i think this is ridiculous, does anybody undersatnd this bull? i dont understand him at all, i need advice on wat to do pleazWhat should do...need advice on how to deal with ex boyfriend
You got it exactly right: it's bull. He wants to have his cake and eat it to: be with you, but without the work or responsiblity. He can't have it both ways. He either loves you or he doesn't, and it sounds like he really doesn't.





The mistake you made was agreeing to try to ';stay friends.'; This rarely works, at least not without healing yourself first. In order to get over someone, you really need to cut them off. Don't IM him. Don't call him. Don't text him. Don't hang out where he hangs out. AVOID HIM. Then, once you have completely gotten over him and moved on, MAYBE you can be friends.





In the meantime, keep yourself busy. Hang out with friends, exercise, have some fun, and do whatever it takes to keep your mind off of him. Then just give it some time. You'll get over him, and then you'll be emotionally available to find someone better. From what you describe here, improvement should be a simple task. Good luck!What should do...need advice on how to deal with ex boyfriend
It sounds like your ex-really likes pulling you along on a string. It also seems like right now he'd really digging you cause he knows your not up missing him all the time.





You got a good strong head on your shoulders. Keep it going and maybe even be more distant with him until he is very specific and tells you that what he wants from you is you and him together. Otherwise--leave it.





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I agree with Mr. Taco. You should just leave him alone. You need to nurse your wounds. Don't let him come and stir up your emotions. Leave him alone. It is better for both of you!
Maybe he's just insecure nd u need to assure him dats not wat u want or he's just making up an excuse. He cant eat his cake nd have it either wants you fully or not
i dont think you shuld go back with him because he broke ur heart if he wants you back then say nolet him feel how it feels like to be broken hearted...



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i think sumthing deeper is the problem because his response made no sense wutsoever if sumone loves u and still wants to hav a relationship with you they wud still b in a relationship with u not jus pretending.. i say try and see if he wants to be a couple again and if not jus leave him alone tell him not to call because its not fair to u to be still emotionally connected to sumone who doesnt actually want to b with you
Wow, hard situation. If I had to put myself in your shoes, I would cut the cord. It is too hard to have a friendship with an ex because on of you will more than likely still have feelings there. I think that is why it is so hard on you. You need to stand up for yourself and od what is best for you... Maybe let yourself cope and stay away, if he really wants that emotional connection with you, he will be there when you are ready. I think he is being selfish...
From experience, he still wants to be close as far as touching and feeling. He wants to put you in a place where he will still be able to ';hit that'; if he wanted to but be able to talk to other females and legitamently say ';we'll we're just friends'; or ';we're not in that type of relationship';. If you want to move on...do it. He lost you when he broke up with you and if he still loves you he would want you back, not want to be your ';friend';!