How do you deal with meddling ex-Spouses upon Death?

If your dad were dying...and your mother (they've been divorced for almost 15 years) is suddenly making a big deal out of burial trivialities etc etc...what is the best way to deal with her? They WERE married...but she's getting in the way of paperwork and we're (the children ) getting frustrated.


What is the best way to deal with her?


Thanks :)How do you deal with meddling ex-Spouses upon Death?
Just flat out tell her she's getting in the way of paperwork and it will be easier on everyone if she just stays out of the way......plain and simple.How do you deal with meddling ex-Spouses upon Death?
I mean..Vaginator...oops..

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I'd tell her that you know she's trying to help, but she's making it more difficult on you ';kids'; and there are things you're taking into account that she may not be aware of. I'd be nice about it, because obviously she still has emotional ties, but I'd also be firm about, because she really has no say, legal or otherwise, in any of it.
If they are legally divorced she has no rights. It falls to current spouse or oldest living biological child. Just make an appt w/funeral home,lawyers and whatnot and not tell her when and where and handle business as usual. It's a sad position but it's ur dad's funeral and maybe she shouldn't attend if there were bad feelings in life. Death tends to bring out the worse in people unfortunately.
Tell her flat out....you divorced him 15 years ago. He's not your husband, but he has always been our father. Thanks for wanting to help, but this is our responsibility and we will handle it.





Don't discuss with your mom what you want or plan to do. Don't give her the opportunity to put her two cents in. If she ask or tries to but in, put up your hands and say, Mom I told you we are going to handle this without your input, please stay out of it because you just making matters worse. He's our father and this doesn't concern you.
Your not his wife anymore.. he wanted his children to handle everything!
You just have to be blunt. She is not married to him and she does not have any say.
Say '; Mom, if you wanted a say in it you should have stayed married to him';