my ex wife has a chronic drink problem . i have shared parenting with my daughter and now i am going to have to do something. i spoke to her and she denied her drinking. Apparently the child protection team told me i could get a police welfare check late at night or i could apply for residency via a solicitor . If i cant get legal aid i cant afford to pursue this . What do i do?How do i deal with my ex wife?
Do whatever you have to do to get your daughter out of this dangerous situation. You will be saving her life.How do i deal with my ex wife?
Phone the police and or social services. If they've got anything about them they'll arrange for your daughter to live with you.
Have you tried citizens advice??
Also dont forget solicitors often give you free advice on your first visit. Either may provode you an angle you hadn't thought of before
Friday, August 20, 2010
How do I deal with my ex husband having a baby with someone else?
My ex husband and I were married for 7 years with 2 children and divorced just a year ago. Already he has another girlfriend who is 2 months pregnant with his child. I dont know how he can move on so quickly but I am so hurt. I am civil with his girlfriend but they both know I dont really like her. How am I going to deal with and accept their new baby when it gets here? I am afraid I will resent the child but I know it will have to be around my children who are 4 and 6. How to deal?How do I deal with my ex husband having a baby with someone else?
totally understandable...however you two are divorced and he did move on quickly so it has hurt you as well that he did this...he does not seem to care, he moved on. So you need to as well. Not saying it will be easy to see him come with a baby to pick up your children for a visit...You do not have to become his or hers best friend and accept it, but it would be easier for you to just acknowledge it for your kids sake...If you hold onto hard feelings your children will pick it up and it can be more trouble for you down the road then needed...hopefully he will always be in the picture for ';all'; his kids and if so he will always be dealing with you...You are just hurt and it is a real emotional trauma to see this happen, no doubt...You can not hold onto anger or resentment as you have said, it will only hurt you down the line...Best of luck to you..It will get easier on you...How do I deal with my ex husband having a baby with someone else?
I have a pretty close relationship with my x. we share a child together and when his girlfriend had their baby i made it a point to go see her. Now four years later they broke up and the baby likes me more than her own mom. when we go to pick up our kids she wants to go home with me instead of her mom. It makes her mad but i love it!!!!! And dont forget that this baby will be your kids sibling. you dont want any hard feelings between them or you...
you are jealous.
you still have feeling for your ex.
unfortunately, there is nothing you can do.
under the circumstances, he thinks he has you where he wants you.
in this circumstance, you can find yourself a younger man just for show and maybe more.
if your ex is the jealous and violent type, keep your business to yourself.
You dont have to accept the baby, it has nothing to do with yopu. You dont even have to like his girlfriend.
Of course the will be around thier new little brother or sister. Butt out and get a life of your own.
Your job is to be YOUR children's advocate in all things. They will have contact with this sibling when they are with your ex, so do nothing to make them feel umnomfortable about this new baby. They may want to talk about it some, so keep an open mind and spend more time LISTENING than expressing an opinion.
Your resentment issues are towards your Ex, not the innocent baby. Keep a clear head and remember, your marraige to him is over and you have no control over him or the situation. The only one you can control is you and your emotions.
Your test is about LOVE. Nothing else.
Learning how to LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY.....as you do with your children.
This new baby will give you an opportunity to show how truly amazing you are.
IF you are able to display love to this new baby, and it shouldn't be hard knowing you like babies, you will rise above the obvious hurt and pain that was caused by your ex.
Your strength must come from the center of your being and at the center of your being is.....??????
Breath in......breath out.....calm down......
Peace
and it helps to sing and dance when nobodies around.
and remember one very important UNIVERSAL TRUTH.
YOU CAN'T DO ANYTHING ABOUT ANYTHING THAT HAPPENED BEFORE THIS EXACT MOMENT.....and living in the land of IF.....is a sad land.
GO FORWARD and be the greatest person you can be........and the way you do that is by practicing the art of LOVE.
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.
good luck....it can be a lot of work.
By the way.....a massage from time to time will help you.
The key word is ex. You have to accept the fact that he has moved on. Maybe you should do the same thing.
Tell him ';congratulations'; and simply continue to live your life as you have been.
He has started a life with this woman....there is no reason to be bitter toward the unborn baby. He or she doesn't have a choice in this situation. Just deal with it on your own, this child needs love just like your kids do.
Resentment, if it isn't dealt with, tends to grow over time.
YOU DON';T . There is nothing for you to deal with except your own jealousy. It's an ugly look on anyone. Learn to detach.
GET OVER IT ALREADY!!!
You are not together and you need a life of your own. It was bound to happen sooner or later. Find a way to keep your distance if it's hurting you. You need to move on.
Don't take any of this out on your children or his, it sounds like you need something to occupy your time. Find out what makes you happy and go for it. YOU WILL NOT WIN HIM BACK. IT';S OVER
Find a new way of life that will help you deal!
Or go on the Jerry show and look like a piece of trash...
your choice
';EX'; is the operative word here . . . . . Divorced means that he is entitled to get on with his life however he chooses to. And, if you've been divorced for a year already its long since time for you to let go of the past and get on with your own life as well. If you're still angry with your ex you shouldn't pass that on to his baby, which will be your children's brother or sister. I'm sorry to say this, but resenting a baby seems rather childish to me ! For your own sake and for the sake of your children stop thinking about the past and/or your ex and start concentrating on what you can do to make your own future a happy one !
God Bless You !
Well, it would be cruel of you to take it out on the child. How could you be resentful towards a baby who hasn't even entered this world yet.
You're ex has moved on and started a new life for himself...like it or not. Take a look around you. There are many things that happen to people in this world that aren't fair.
You need to stop living in the past because life is short. Your ex has gotten on with his life now you need to do the same.
well its hard, always, to get over somthing like that!!! i srry..............well you just have to think its ok.........it isnt the end of the world!!!!!!! so just think maybe he wasnt the right person for you!!! you have to move on!
around your children but not around you. who cares he moved on now so should you. you would have no reason to resent a child that you dont have to care for. grow up
No matter how hard it gets, no matter how hurt you feel, always remember that the baby was born innocent and did not ask to be brought into the situation. You also must always remember that regardless of how you feel, that baby is a sibling to your children, same as they are to one another : ) Do you like to read? Read the novel Blue Shoe by Anne Lamott.
First off he's that of your EX! In this case please bring your maturity level up and get over it! He's moved on regardless to how you look at it! He has a girlfriend now!!!!!!!!! I suggest you move on with your life and stay out of his affairs! You don't have to indulge in the babies life because it's not your worry, that's your children sister or brother! Just raise your kids to be close with there sister or brother because they all can be there for one another..... That baby is innocent and your best bet is to embrace it! It's over and regardless to what you think of him and moving on with his life he's done just that moved on! The girlfriend isn't for you to like anyway she's for your Ex to love, like and accept! Sounds like a mild case of envy and jealousy! Get this now that they are playing house that leaves more time for you to allow the children to fill her out because weather you want to realize it or not she's going to be apart of there lives with the baby!!!!!!!! I know this maybe something that you don't want to here but it is what it is!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Get your life and priorities in order and think like this, you have bigger fish to fry!!!!!!!!! God bless and good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Your husband probably ';moved on'; emotional long before he even left the marriage so, to him, he didn't move on as fast as you are perceiving it. I know it hurts but for the sake of your two kids you need to work on putting things in prospective.
Children can easily pick up on tension and dislike and it's in their best interest for you to accept your ex-husband's new girlfriend and baby and get along in more than just civil terms. They (your kids and your husband's new baby) are going to be connected for all of their lives; you want your kids to be treated fairly and lovingly while they are around your ex-husband's house and that can't happen without you to the bigger, more forgiving person in this equation.
Your kids have a new brother or sister on the way. If you don't want them to take a back seat to the new arrival, then accept and try to welcome the baby for what it is: family. Resentment will only hurt you in the long run.
This is a very cold answer but i believe that you have to accept all the positive that you received from any type of relationships. That is why i have not married. I accept them for what they are. The good and the bad. That must really hurt! Especially involving children. I went threw a similar relationship. where my man married a woman 2 months after we stopped seeing each other. That Hurt. The marriage lasted 1 year! I know he didn't love her,but that was his way of dealing with it! We have been in touch as friends for more then 10 years.I hope you can get the support from others to deal with it in a positive way! Good Luck!
The same way he would if you where pregnant.
How can he move on so quickly ? , because if you have the kids M-F or even M-SA...What life does that give you to go out and meet other people. NONE......He has 5 to 6 days a week to get out and start over. You may only have 1 to 4 days a month....Doesn't seem fair but that's how he moved on.
When my ex and I first split it was the same, but different I worked two jobs to pay the support and didn't have time for the hook ups. But I was over her........
You seem to be still caught up in the relationship you where in. You need to give him the children a little more and get out there and fine some time to mingle.......Don't feel guilty about the kids being with him, sometimes a woman need her own time and needs full filled................good luck........
PS.......treat the new girl friend and child with a little more respect, fighting with her is not gonna make things easier.....it will just make you look like your jealous and if anything he is her problem now......
why would you even ask this question its none of your biz to even care what he does anymore .your divorced,i think your just jealous.that's hes gone on and not feeling miserable.like he lost everything.
Tell him that when he is visiting, he is not allowed to bring his girlfriend in your house. That is the best way to deal with it for now. You can tell him that you can't deal with it and it is not wise to make a scene in front of you children.
totally understandable...however you two are divorced and he did move on quickly so it has hurt you as well that he did this...he does not seem to care, he moved on. So you need to as well. Not saying it will be easy to see him come with a baby to pick up your children for a visit...You do not have to become his or hers best friend and accept it, but it would be easier for you to just acknowledge it for your kids sake...If you hold onto hard feelings your children will pick it up and it can be more trouble for you down the road then needed...hopefully he will always be in the picture for ';all'; his kids and if so he will always be dealing with you...You are just hurt and it is a real emotional trauma to see this happen, no doubt...You can not hold onto anger or resentment as you have said, it will only hurt you down the line...Best of luck to you..It will get easier on you...How do I deal with my ex husband having a baby with someone else?
I have a pretty close relationship with my x. we share a child together and when his girlfriend had their baby i made it a point to go see her. Now four years later they broke up and the baby likes me more than her own mom. when we go to pick up our kids she wants to go home with me instead of her mom. It makes her mad but i love it!!!!! And dont forget that this baby will be your kids sibling. you dont want any hard feelings between them or you...
you are jealous.
you still have feeling for your ex.
unfortunately, there is nothing you can do.
under the circumstances, he thinks he has you where he wants you.
in this circumstance, you can find yourself a younger man just for show and maybe more.
if your ex is the jealous and violent type, keep your business to yourself.
You dont have to accept the baby, it has nothing to do with yopu. You dont even have to like his girlfriend.
Of course the will be around thier new little brother or sister. Butt out and get a life of your own.
Your job is to be YOUR children's advocate in all things. They will have contact with this sibling when they are with your ex, so do nothing to make them feel umnomfortable about this new baby. They may want to talk about it some, so keep an open mind and spend more time LISTENING than expressing an opinion.
Your resentment issues are towards your Ex, not the innocent baby. Keep a clear head and remember, your marraige to him is over and you have no control over him or the situation. The only one you can control is you and your emotions.
Your test is about LOVE. Nothing else.
Learning how to LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY.....as you do with your children.
This new baby will give you an opportunity to show how truly amazing you are.
IF you are able to display love to this new baby, and it shouldn't be hard knowing you like babies, you will rise above the obvious hurt and pain that was caused by your ex.
Your strength must come from the center of your being and at the center of your being is.....??????
Breath in......breath out.....calm down......
Peace
and it helps to sing and dance when nobodies around.
and remember one very important UNIVERSAL TRUTH.
YOU CAN'T DO ANYTHING ABOUT ANYTHING THAT HAPPENED BEFORE THIS EXACT MOMENT.....and living in the land of IF.....is a sad land.
GO FORWARD and be the greatest person you can be........and the way you do that is by practicing the art of LOVE.
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.
good luck....it can be a lot of work.
By the way.....a massage from time to time will help you.
The key word is ex. You have to accept the fact that he has moved on. Maybe you should do the same thing.
Tell him ';congratulations'; and simply continue to live your life as you have been.
He has started a life with this woman....there is no reason to be bitter toward the unborn baby. He or she doesn't have a choice in this situation. Just deal with it on your own, this child needs love just like your kids do.
Resentment, if it isn't dealt with, tends to grow over time.
YOU DON';T . There is nothing for you to deal with except your own jealousy. It's an ugly look on anyone. Learn to detach.
GET OVER IT ALREADY!!!
You are not together and you need a life of your own. It was bound to happen sooner or later. Find a way to keep your distance if it's hurting you. You need to move on.
Don't take any of this out on your children or his, it sounds like you need something to occupy your time. Find out what makes you happy and go for it. YOU WILL NOT WIN HIM BACK. IT';S OVER
Find a new way of life that will help you deal!
Or go on the Jerry show and look like a piece of trash...
your choice
';EX'; is the operative word here . . . . . Divorced means that he is entitled to get on with his life however he chooses to. And, if you've been divorced for a year already its long since time for you to let go of the past and get on with your own life as well. If you're still angry with your ex you shouldn't pass that on to his baby, which will be your children's brother or sister. I'm sorry to say this, but resenting a baby seems rather childish to me ! For your own sake and for the sake of your children stop thinking about the past and/or your ex and start concentrating on what you can do to make your own future a happy one !
God Bless You !
Well, it would be cruel of you to take it out on the child. How could you be resentful towards a baby who hasn't even entered this world yet.
You're ex has moved on and started a new life for himself...like it or not. Take a look around you. There are many things that happen to people in this world that aren't fair.
You need to stop living in the past because life is short. Your ex has gotten on with his life now you need to do the same.
well its hard, always, to get over somthing like that!!! i srry..............well you just have to think its ok.........it isnt the end of the world!!!!!!! so just think maybe he wasnt the right person for you!!! you have to move on!
around your children but not around you. who cares he moved on now so should you. you would have no reason to resent a child that you dont have to care for. grow up
No matter how hard it gets, no matter how hurt you feel, always remember that the baby was born innocent and did not ask to be brought into the situation. You also must always remember that regardless of how you feel, that baby is a sibling to your children, same as they are to one another : ) Do you like to read? Read the novel Blue Shoe by Anne Lamott.
First off he's that of your EX! In this case please bring your maturity level up and get over it! He's moved on regardless to how you look at it! He has a girlfriend now!!!!!!!!! I suggest you move on with your life and stay out of his affairs! You don't have to indulge in the babies life because it's not your worry, that's your children sister or brother! Just raise your kids to be close with there sister or brother because they all can be there for one another..... That baby is innocent and your best bet is to embrace it! It's over and regardless to what you think of him and moving on with his life he's done just that moved on! The girlfriend isn't for you to like anyway she's for your Ex to love, like and accept! Sounds like a mild case of envy and jealousy! Get this now that they are playing house that leaves more time for you to allow the children to fill her out because weather you want to realize it or not she's going to be apart of there lives with the baby!!!!!!!! I know this maybe something that you don't want to here but it is what it is!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Get your life and priorities in order and think like this, you have bigger fish to fry!!!!!!!!! God bless and good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Your husband probably ';moved on'; emotional long before he even left the marriage so, to him, he didn't move on as fast as you are perceiving it. I know it hurts but for the sake of your two kids you need to work on putting things in prospective.
Children can easily pick up on tension and dislike and it's in their best interest for you to accept your ex-husband's new girlfriend and baby and get along in more than just civil terms. They (your kids and your husband's new baby) are going to be connected for all of their lives; you want your kids to be treated fairly and lovingly while they are around your ex-husband's house and that can't happen without you to the bigger, more forgiving person in this equation.
Your kids have a new brother or sister on the way. If you don't want them to take a back seat to the new arrival, then accept and try to welcome the baby for what it is: family. Resentment will only hurt you in the long run.
This is a very cold answer but i believe that you have to accept all the positive that you received from any type of relationships. That is why i have not married. I accept them for what they are. The good and the bad. That must really hurt! Especially involving children. I went threw a similar relationship. where my man married a woman 2 months after we stopped seeing each other. That Hurt. The marriage lasted 1 year! I know he didn't love her,but that was his way of dealing with it! We have been in touch as friends for more then 10 years.I hope you can get the support from others to deal with it in a positive way! Good Luck!
The same way he would if you where pregnant.
How can he move on so quickly ? , because if you have the kids M-F or even M-SA...What life does that give you to go out and meet other people. NONE......He has 5 to 6 days a week to get out and start over. You may only have 1 to 4 days a month....Doesn't seem fair but that's how he moved on.
When my ex and I first split it was the same, but different I worked two jobs to pay the support and didn't have time for the hook ups. But I was over her........
You seem to be still caught up in the relationship you where in. You need to give him the children a little more and get out there and fine some time to mingle.......Don't feel guilty about the kids being with him, sometimes a woman need her own time and needs full filled................good luck........
PS.......treat the new girl friend and child with a little more respect, fighting with her is not gonna make things easier.....it will just make you look like your jealous and if anything he is her problem now......
why would you even ask this question its none of your biz to even care what he does anymore .your divorced,i think your just jealous.that's hes gone on and not feeling miserable.like he lost everything.
Tell him that when he is visiting, he is not allowed to bring his girlfriend in your house. That is the best way to deal with it for now. You can tell him that you can't deal with it and it is not wise to make a scene in front of you children.
How do you deal with an ex husband who refuses to pay child support?
I'm finishing my divorce up and since december 07 he has not paid a lick of child support, and I'm have problems paying things because of it, if you have gone through this tell me how you dealt with it.How do you deal with an ex husband who refuses to pay child support?
I always hear people say 'take him to court' ( I have), 'report him' (he has been), 'he HAS to pay' (he hasn't) ... 'he will go to jail!' ( hasn't yet). Well we have been to court three different times since 1994 and he now owes $60,000.00+! They know where he lives, know where he works (he change jobs alot) but I still cannot get them to enforce him to pay. At one time I had to go on food stamps and state medical for the kids, GUESS WHAT... They found him and he paid... because they (the government) wanted to get that $ back. I went back to work got off assistance and haven't been able to have it enforced since and cannot afford an attorney. I wish you the best of luck for you and your children but I just don't believe all this HE HAS TO and HE WILL GO TO JAIL... Good Luck %26amp; Take Care!How do you deal with an ex husband who refuses to pay child support?
Use your lawful remedy. Have your attorney file a motion with the court. If you don't have an attorney you can get legal aid. Make it painful on him. Tell the court you suspect that his wages have increased. He will have to redisclose and if his wages have increased you are entitled to more support. If he still doesn't pay you can have his wages garnished (again consult atty or legal aid of the court). Some men will quit work over it and if he does, he's just stupid. But then again, he lost you, didn't he?
I reported it to the court and he still didn't pay. Finally I gave up and am doing it on my own. You can go through the court or call your local child support enforcement agency and hope they do something about it.
I am a single father with full custody and never asked for a dime in child support. If you want the responsibility of your kids then take it in full and dont rely on someone else to pay for it. Its called getting a job.
He's in contempt of court. He either pays or goes to jail.
Contact the enforcement agency with all details of his arrears, and provide his place of work. His wages should be garnished.
Take him to court for it - contempt of court! non-payment of child support... you can get the arrears, and even request that it come from wage withholding.
Being a man the most direct way to deal with this problem is take out an abandonment warrent against him and let court sort it out.
Sue his As$. I know people who have gone through the same thing hun, and the only way you'll get something out of him is with a court order.
The IRS sent me his tax refunds. He called whining about that. I told him too f-cking bad.
Court
u take him to court for contempt and get his wages garnishedantivirus download ie tab
I always hear people say 'take him to court' ( I have), 'report him' (he has been), 'he HAS to pay' (he hasn't) ... 'he will go to jail!' ( hasn't yet). Well we have been to court three different times since 1994 and he now owes $60,000.00+! They know where he lives, know where he works (he change jobs alot) but I still cannot get them to enforce him to pay. At one time I had to go on food stamps and state medical for the kids, GUESS WHAT... They found him and he paid... because they (the government) wanted to get that $ back. I went back to work got off assistance and haven't been able to have it enforced since and cannot afford an attorney. I wish you the best of luck for you and your children but I just don't believe all this HE HAS TO and HE WILL GO TO JAIL... Good Luck %26amp; Take Care!How do you deal with an ex husband who refuses to pay child support?
Use your lawful remedy. Have your attorney file a motion with the court. If you don't have an attorney you can get legal aid. Make it painful on him. Tell the court you suspect that his wages have increased. He will have to redisclose and if his wages have increased you are entitled to more support. If he still doesn't pay you can have his wages garnished (again consult atty or legal aid of the court). Some men will quit work over it and if he does, he's just stupid. But then again, he lost you, didn't he?
I reported it to the court and he still didn't pay. Finally I gave up and am doing it on my own. You can go through the court or call your local child support enforcement agency and hope they do something about it.
I am a single father with full custody and never asked for a dime in child support. If you want the responsibility of your kids then take it in full and dont rely on someone else to pay for it. Its called getting a job.
He's in contempt of court. He either pays or goes to jail.
Contact the enforcement agency with all details of his arrears, and provide his place of work. His wages should be garnished.
Take him to court for it - contempt of court! non-payment of child support... you can get the arrears, and even request that it come from wage withholding.
Being a man the most direct way to deal with this problem is take out an abandonment warrent against him and let court sort it out.
Sue his As$. I know people who have gone through the same thing hun, and the only way you'll get something out of him is with a court order.
The IRS sent me his tax refunds. He called whining about that. I told him too f-cking bad.
Court
u take him to court for contempt and get his wages garnished
How to deal with a ex bf that likes your bff?
he likes her so much he wants me to ask her out for him!How to deal with a ex bf that likes your bff?
If she is really a bff then you have nothing to worry about. A real friend would never date your ex. I would tell him that you wont ask her for him because you don't want to be in the middle of anything.How to deal with a ex bf that likes your bff?
First off if he wants you to ask her out for him then he needs to mature a bit more. Second, it sounds like you and him are still somewhat friends so I see no problem with them dating. Ultimately it will be up to them if they do or not and as their friend, you should be happy for them. Be there for your friends.
How to deal with a ex bf that likes your bff?
he likes her so much he wants me to ask her out for him!
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IM SO CONFUSED!
your ex boy-friend likes you boy-friend-friend's?
he likes her. so your boy-friends friend is a female and he wants you to ask her out. whats the problem again?
I know how you feel! I had a similar problem a few years ago. Asking her out for him is weird; why is he too afraid to ask her himself? If I were you, I'd talk to your bff about it and tell her what the problem is/how it makes you feel. Probs she will listen to you and tell him no.
wow so want u think u sod do
me: if i was u i well mack hem happy and do it
you:i want in yr heart that tell u what to do
i follow my feelings or my heart
wat do yr heart tell u want to do
that would be super weird for me and i wouldnt do it, but if your okay with them being together, then go ahead and ask her for him.
punch him in da face den punch ur bff
in da face
Tell Him Straight... Do it your self or Nothing....
If she is really a bff then you have nothing to worry about. A real friend would never date your ex. I would tell him that you wont ask her for him because you don't want to be in the middle of anything.How to deal with a ex bf that likes your bff?
First off if he wants you to ask her out for him then he needs to mature a bit more. Second, it sounds like you and him are still somewhat friends so I see no problem with them dating. Ultimately it will be up to them if they do or not and as their friend, you should be happy for them. Be there for your friends.
How to deal with a ex bf that likes your bff?
he likes her so much he wants me to ask her out for him!
--
IM SO CONFUSED!
your ex boy-friend likes you boy-friend-friend's?
he likes her. so your boy-friends friend is a female and he wants you to ask her out. whats the problem again?
I know how you feel! I had a similar problem a few years ago. Asking her out for him is weird; why is he too afraid to ask her himself? If I were you, I'd talk to your bff about it and tell her what the problem is/how it makes you feel. Probs she will listen to you and tell him no.
wow so want u think u sod do
me: if i was u i well mack hem happy and do it
you:i want in yr heart that tell u what to do
i follow my feelings or my heart
wat do yr heart tell u want to do
that would be super weird for me and i wouldnt do it, but if your okay with them being together, then go ahead and ask her for him.
punch him in da face den punch ur bff
in da face
Tell Him Straight... Do it your self or Nothing....
How should i deal with my ex?
me and my girlfriend just recently broke up and she still wants to be best friends. Should i be her best friend and remain somewhat close to her or ignore her so that she misses me and hopefully wants to go back to being my girlfriend? I want to be her boyfriend and not just a friendHow should i deal with my ex?
I would make a clean break, ignore her, and that will let you know if she really loves you or not. You can always be best friends down the road. Tell her you'd like to be friends, just not now, because you still have strong feelings for her, that you need some time to get over her and move on then you can get back to being friends. Do it sweetly and nicely. She'll be kicking herslef within a week or two she'll beg to have you back.How should i deal with my ex?
Be her best friend as suggested.
yes become his friend
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okay so this is how to go about doing that be her friend cause if you say no then she will just think your immature show her how good of a friend you could be that's your only hope of getting her back if you need more advice email me at wesleyholman2009@yahoo.com
do not stay completely away cus it could hurt her feelings, but make sure its clear that you have a line she shouldnt cross like if she gets too close dont let her. just friends.
good luck.x
friend - bestfriend - boy friend
thats the ladder,
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tell her you don't want to be her best friend but her boyfriend, because you still have feelings for her, if she doesn't want to be your girlfriend tell her you'll not be her best friend anymore.
dont.. believe me dont.. you may care for her but she might not care for you,. how will you feel being all friendly with her and then she tells you shes met someone else?? it will happen.. stop communicating with her, allow her to miss you, and see if you both real;ly want each oither, the time will help you both reflect on your relationship, all the good and bad will come to light, weigh them up and see if its worth getting back together.
i know first hand why its not a gd idead being friends with an ex when you still love them.. you always get hurt!!!!!
It depends on how much you like her and want her.
She is more likely to come back to you later, if you stay her friend for as long as it takes.
If you say (in effect) friendship is just not good enough. If I can`t be your boyfriend, then I will be nothing - you might lose her.
She might even think, good - ';I don`t want him hanging around any more anyway. He`s done me a favour.';
TELL HER YOU'LL BE HER FRIEND JUST SO U CAN STAY CLOSE TO HER AND IF ITS MEANT TO BE YOU'LL GET BACK TOGETHER
With what I have read it seems that you didn't want to break up but did anyway. You miss her and hope to get back with her.......hmmmm
well first of all, what kind of game are you playing?
If she means that much to you stay close and maybe she'll take you back. But this time be the man and think about what your doing.
She broke up with you right? If so, she doesn't want to be your friend. If you broke up with her and she still wanted you you wouldn't want her around, right?
Always remember, lose this chick. She dumped you. Don't be such a loser.
If I dump someone I don't expect them to ever come within 100 miles from me. If they dump me I don't expect myself to ever come within 100 planets of them
Being a best friend after breaking up is just a way to ease out of the relationship a little less painfully. It's better to rip the band-aide off quickly.
I would make a clean break, ignore her, and that will let you know if she really loves you or not. You can always be best friends down the road. Tell her you'd like to be friends, just not now, because you still have strong feelings for her, that you need some time to get over her and move on then you can get back to being friends. Do it sweetly and nicely. She'll be kicking herslef within a week or two she'll beg to have you back.How should i deal with my ex?
Be her best friend as suggested.
yes become his friend
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okay so this is how to go about doing that be her friend cause if you say no then she will just think your immature show her how good of a friend you could be that's your only hope of getting her back if you need more advice email me at wesleyholman2009@yahoo.com
do not stay completely away cus it could hurt her feelings, but make sure its clear that you have a line she shouldnt cross like if she gets too close dont let her. just friends.
good luck.x
friend - bestfriend - boy friend
thats the ladder,
answer mine,
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tell her you don't want to be her best friend but her boyfriend, because you still have feelings for her, if she doesn't want to be your girlfriend tell her you'll not be her best friend anymore.
dont.. believe me dont.. you may care for her but she might not care for you,. how will you feel being all friendly with her and then she tells you shes met someone else?? it will happen.. stop communicating with her, allow her to miss you, and see if you both real;ly want each oither, the time will help you both reflect on your relationship, all the good and bad will come to light, weigh them up and see if its worth getting back together.
i know first hand why its not a gd idead being friends with an ex when you still love them.. you always get hurt!!!!!
It depends on how much you like her and want her.
She is more likely to come back to you later, if you stay her friend for as long as it takes.
If you say (in effect) friendship is just not good enough. If I can`t be your boyfriend, then I will be nothing - you might lose her.
She might even think, good - ';I don`t want him hanging around any more anyway. He`s done me a favour.';
TELL HER YOU'LL BE HER FRIEND JUST SO U CAN STAY CLOSE TO HER AND IF ITS MEANT TO BE YOU'LL GET BACK TOGETHER
With what I have read it seems that you didn't want to break up but did anyway. You miss her and hope to get back with her.......hmmmm
well first of all, what kind of game are you playing?
If she means that much to you stay close and maybe she'll take you back. But this time be the man and think about what your doing.
She broke up with you right? If so, she doesn't want to be your friend. If you broke up with her and she still wanted you you wouldn't want her around, right?
Always remember, lose this chick. She dumped you. Don't be such a loser.
If I dump someone I don't expect them to ever come within 100 miles from me. If they dump me I don't expect myself to ever come within 100 planets of them
Being a best friend after breaking up is just a way to ease out of the relationship a little less painfully. It's better to rip the band-aide off quickly.
How do you deal with an ex-girlfriend that keeps calling and texting? Men and women please help!?
Here's the thing, I have broken up with her in the past and because of physical reasons got back with her ;-) Now part of my resolution this year is to get rid of her and turn my life around. My life has been nothing but h**l since I meet her. Oh and the time line has been a little over a year since we meet. I have been trying to just ignore the phone calls but I want them to stop all together.How do you deal with an ex-girlfriend that keeps calling and texting? Men and women please help!?
The calling/texting will eventually end. I had an ex that apparently decided she missed me (yes she dumped me after 2yrs together). For most of the last 2 yrs, she has made numerous calls/texts/emails to me. I didn't need or want her in my life at any level. She was far too difficult. I never answered her calls, opened her emails, or read her messages. Thus, I never responded. She made crappy choices, but I didn't owe her anything else of me. For many months, I wanted the calls, etc, to stop, too. I just learned to ignore them (and her), and now it has tapered off dramatically. Keep in mind, she was extremely needy of attention; I don't think most sensible girls would go that far.How do you deal with an ex-girlfriend that keeps calling and texting? Men and women please help!?
just call her and tell her that you would appreciate it if she would leave you alone that you have no feelings left for her and you are intending on starting this year without having her in it! then I would change my ph # cause you know she will keep calling.........
Tell her if she doesn't quit calling and texting you are gonna press harrassment charges..LOL put the scare in her...lmao
change your number and be courteous when you see her irl, but just stay away.
change ur #, get one of ur female friends to answer n tell her that you got a new girl, block her #, tell her to leave u alone, call her all the horrible named u can think of and maybe that will make he realize u dont want her
change your number
firstly id like to say that its LAME to just be with a girl for physical reasons. thats really low.
but as far as your problem, explain to her that you're over. you dont have feelings for her anymore. and she needs to back off.
What the hell are you doing dating my girlfriend?
BE HARSH..!!
Just tell her you don't like her anymore and to move on. Ignore her calls and if she persists pick it up and be mean. i.e. tell her why she is your EX.
Answer the phone and do her one more time. Then change your number.
Change you number. I know it's a pain to do that. but sounds like it would be worth it. Some people don't get hints. Tell this
girl straight out, that is if you haven't already.
Good luck
I think the calls will only stop once you start to ignore her. Right now you are making her call by keeping in contact with her. stop answering her calls or texts and she will stop the calls. trust me on this one , it will take time but the calls will stop. she still thinks you are interested every time you pick up the phone and talk to her, so when you stop talking to her she will think you are no longer interested and she will give up annd move on to the next guy. good luck.
there is a way to block her calls and texts. just come out and in a respectful way tell her it needs to stop before you take further actions. put a little scare into her and tell her that if she doesnt stop the calling and texting that you will file for harassment. sometimes it takes a good boot in the ***.
just block her number.. call ur phone company and tell them you want that number blocked... and she'll get the message :) good luck
Block that phone number.. and no, don't kill her!
hi there.. well its hard for that to happen as quickly as you want it to be.. patience is always a virtue, i had a similar situation a couple of years back. just ignore him :)
just dont anwser her never make a girl anwser for u and she will be all **** it drink liquor and get **** up and kill her lol
tell her ITS FRIGGIN OVER, GET A LIFE YOU ****** UP PSYCHO
Tell her that you want nothing else to do with her and you want her out of your life. Give her the chance to leave you alone before you have to change your number. If she still continues to call, then you will need to change your number. If she shows up at your door, file harassment charges.
Tell her u have another girl in your life.
Ignore her... if that fails, change your number and flatly tell her that this is the last time you will say it: I am finished with this relationship. I have resolved to move on and turn my life around. Please leave me alone or I will report you to the police and get a TRO against you. Hang up, walk away, run, whatever, but do NO acknowledge her again.
stop boinking her and maybe she will stop calling you asshat
Be honest with her. Tell her exactly how you feel. If she doesn't back off after you tell her to, tell her that you will be blocking her number. You have to do whatever it takes so you can move on!
first of alll y r u making a resoulution of trying to get rid of ur girlfriend?? if u really dont like her then u should tell her howw u feel n that u dont want to hurt her when u dont love her. i think ur life is like hell ever since u met her because u making it like that not in a mean way but if u loved her in the first place and thought she was the right one for you then you should of thought how bringing her in your life would effect you mentally and physically.......and if u were in a relationship with her and it was a little over a year and you broke up 3 or less times then i think u do love her but u just need a little time and u just need a break and tell her u need a break and dat u still love her but once ur with a person for too long espically when ur a teenager u need a break to catch up with life....
tell her straight out that you can't stand her guts.
and then if she keeps calling, change your number.
its kind of easy to get rid of someone.
DON'T RESPOND! don't text her back telling her to quit
don't answer only to tell her not to call - IGNORE! IGNORE IGNORE!!!!!! If all else fails threaten her with a restraining order - that will help you keep your resolution too!
Block their number. OR kill the *****. Or both.
get a restraining order
Get your number changed cause it seems she's not getting the message.
Call your provider and see if there is a way to block the number. That way she can't bug you. If I really wanted her to leave me alone, I would tell her and tell her with conviction, you have to believe it also in order for her to. If it keeps up you really are dealing with harassment. It's in your hands. Ignore it and hope it goes away or deal with it in a real and upfront way that leaves her no room for encouragement. Good luck. Miss Mary
Just tell her in the nicest possible way that you are not interested in talking to her and if that don't work then change you digits or block her calls.. But you can't be getting physical with her anymore you know!
The calling/texting will eventually end. I had an ex that apparently decided she missed me (yes she dumped me after 2yrs together). For most of the last 2 yrs, she has made numerous calls/texts/emails to me. I didn't need or want her in my life at any level. She was far too difficult. I never answered her calls, opened her emails, or read her messages. Thus, I never responded. She made crappy choices, but I didn't owe her anything else of me. For many months, I wanted the calls, etc, to stop, too. I just learned to ignore them (and her), and now it has tapered off dramatically. Keep in mind, she was extremely needy of attention; I don't think most sensible girls would go that far.How do you deal with an ex-girlfriend that keeps calling and texting? Men and women please help!?
just call her and tell her that you would appreciate it if she would leave you alone that you have no feelings left for her and you are intending on starting this year without having her in it! then I would change my ph # cause you know she will keep calling.........
Tell her if she doesn't quit calling and texting you are gonna press harrassment charges..LOL put the scare in her...lmao
change your number and be courteous when you see her irl, but just stay away.
change ur #, get one of ur female friends to answer n tell her that you got a new girl, block her #, tell her to leave u alone, call her all the horrible named u can think of and maybe that will make he realize u dont want her
change your number
firstly id like to say that its LAME to just be with a girl for physical reasons. thats really low.
but as far as your problem, explain to her that you're over. you dont have feelings for her anymore. and she needs to back off.
What the hell are you doing dating my girlfriend?
BE HARSH..!!
Just tell her you don't like her anymore and to move on. Ignore her calls and if she persists pick it up and be mean. i.e. tell her why she is your EX.
Answer the phone and do her one more time. Then change your number.
Change you number. I know it's a pain to do that. but sounds like it would be worth it. Some people don't get hints. Tell this
girl straight out, that is if you haven't already.
Good luck
I think the calls will only stop once you start to ignore her. Right now you are making her call by keeping in contact with her. stop answering her calls or texts and she will stop the calls. trust me on this one , it will take time but the calls will stop. she still thinks you are interested every time you pick up the phone and talk to her, so when you stop talking to her she will think you are no longer interested and she will give up annd move on to the next guy. good luck.
there is a way to block her calls and texts. just come out and in a respectful way tell her it needs to stop before you take further actions. put a little scare into her and tell her that if she doesnt stop the calling and texting that you will file for harassment. sometimes it takes a good boot in the ***.
just block her number.. call ur phone company and tell them you want that number blocked... and she'll get the message :) good luck
Block that phone number.. and no, don't kill her!
hi there.. well its hard for that to happen as quickly as you want it to be.. patience is always a virtue, i had a similar situation a couple of years back. just ignore him :)
just dont anwser her never make a girl anwser for u and she will be all **** it drink liquor and get **** up and kill her lol
tell her ITS FRIGGIN OVER, GET A LIFE YOU ****** UP PSYCHO
Tell her that you want nothing else to do with her and you want her out of your life. Give her the chance to leave you alone before you have to change your number. If she still continues to call, then you will need to change your number. If she shows up at your door, file harassment charges.
Tell her u have another girl in your life.
Ignore her... if that fails, change your number and flatly tell her that this is the last time you will say it: I am finished with this relationship. I have resolved to move on and turn my life around. Please leave me alone or I will report you to the police and get a TRO against you. Hang up, walk away, run, whatever, but do NO acknowledge her again.
stop boinking her and maybe she will stop calling you asshat
Be honest with her. Tell her exactly how you feel. If she doesn't back off after you tell her to, tell her that you will be blocking her number. You have to do whatever it takes so you can move on!
first of alll y r u making a resoulution of trying to get rid of ur girlfriend?? if u really dont like her then u should tell her howw u feel n that u dont want to hurt her when u dont love her. i think ur life is like hell ever since u met her because u making it like that not in a mean way but if u loved her in the first place and thought she was the right one for you then you should of thought how bringing her in your life would effect you mentally and physically.......and if u were in a relationship with her and it was a little over a year and you broke up 3 or less times then i think u do love her but u just need a little time and u just need a break and tell her u need a break and dat u still love her but once ur with a person for too long espically when ur a teenager u need a break to catch up with life....
tell her straight out that you can't stand her guts.
and then if she keeps calling, change your number.
its kind of easy to get rid of someone.
DON'T RESPOND! don't text her back telling her to quit
don't answer only to tell her not to call - IGNORE! IGNORE IGNORE!!!!!! If all else fails threaten her with a restraining order - that will help you keep your resolution too!
Block their number. OR kill the *****. Or both.
get a restraining order
Get your number changed cause it seems she's not getting the message.
Call your provider and see if there is a way to block the number. That way she can't bug you. If I really wanted her to leave me alone, I would tell her and tell her with conviction, you have to believe it also in order for her to. If it keeps up you really are dealing with harassment. It's in your hands. Ignore it and hope it goes away or deal with it in a real and upfront way that leaves her no room for encouragement. Good luck. Miss Mary
Just tell her in the nicest possible way that you are not interested in talking to her and if that don't work then change you digits or block her calls.. But you can't be getting physical with her anymore you know!
How do you deal with an ex like this?
he is still friends with one of my besties and she tells me things he says. he's a BIG TIME LIAR he even lied to me what he real name was..but he said he was he best thing that's ever happened to me.How do you deal with an ex like this?
ignore himHow do you deal with an ex like this?
The way you deal with him is to not deal with him at all. Your friend is entitled to be friends with whoever she wants. However, you should let her know that you don't care to hear about anything he has to say.
How do you deal with a lying ex?
You don't. He's an Ex for a reason I assume. Keep it that way.
What a loser, is your bestie friends with him because she wants to spite you ?? Honest i think your bestie prob likes him ...He's using her too get to you .
That seems like a tough situation, what you should do is AIM the following screen name: TheAdviceGiver85
They helped me and they will help you
Put him in the trunk of your car with no food or water for about 2 weeks.
Get over him. That's the best thing that happened to you.
ignore himHow do you deal with an ex like this?
The way you deal with him is to not deal with him at all. Your friend is entitled to be friends with whoever she wants. However, you should let her know that you don't care to hear about anything he has to say.
How do you deal with a lying ex?
You don't. He's an Ex for a reason I assume. Keep it that way.
What a loser, is your bestie friends with him because she wants to spite you ?? Honest i think your bestie prob likes him ...He's using her too get to you .
That seems like a tough situation, what you should do is AIM the following screen name: TheAdviceGiver85
They helped me and they will help you
Put him in the trunk of your car with no food or water for about 2 weeks.
Get over him. That's the best thing that happened to you.
How do i deal with my ex?
okay so my boyfriend and i just broke up....i really liked him and this is a hard break up but i know its for the best. he goes to my school and he hangs out and is friends with all of my friends... in fact my best girl friend is his best friend too.. so they will be hanging out a lot.. basically there is no way to avoid him at school. what is the best way to be non awkward about everything?How do i deal with my ex?
you gotta confront him about it preferably just the two of you. Ask him to go get a coffee or something with you then talk about things.. good luckHow do i deal with my ex?
It sounds like you're stuck between a rock and a hard place , trust me I was there once. The best thing to do is confront it head on you dont want to tip toe around him because it could take a turn for the worst. And when I say head on I mean just act normal do what you normally do because if you don't he'll know and from the sounds of it you to have been going out for awhile so he'll know if you're trying to avoid him. And as for dealing with him just act normal I know it can be hard just suck it up through the day and deal with it at home if that means crying or screaming then do it because if you show him that you still care he might take that and run with it .
If there are things that still need said, it might be easier if they are said now, perhaps through a letter or one last conversation. Agree its going to be awkward and try to be friends. And just leave it as such without trying to purposefully harm each other.
Just to be nice to him and be friends with him, it will be awkward at first but do something you both like to do and the lumps will be smoothed out.
Just be friendly.
Excuse my french, but dont be bitchy toward him.
You guys went out and things didn't work out but that doesn't mean you can't still be friends. [:
just have friendly convos with him
you gotta confront him about it preferably just the two of you. Ask him to go get a coffee or something with you then talk about things.. good luckHow do i deal with my ex?
It sounds like you're stuck between a rock and a hard place , trust me I was there once. The best thing to do is confront it head on you dont want to tip toe around him because it could take a turn for the worst. And when I say head on I mean just act normal do what you normally do because if you don't he'll know and from the sounds of it you to have been going out for awhile so he'll know if you're trying to avoid him. And as for dealing with him just act normal I know it can be hard just suck it up through the day and deal with it at home if that means crying or screaming then do it because if you show him that you still care he might take that and run with it .
If there are things that still need said, it might be easier if they are said now, perhaps through a letter or one last conversation. Agree its going to be awkward and try to be friends. And just leave it as such without trying to purposefully harm each other.
Just to be nice to him and be friends with him, it will be awkward at first but do something you both like to do and the lumps will be smoothed out.
Just be friendly.
Excuse my french, but dont be bitchy toward him.
You guys went out and things didn't work out but that doesn't mean you can't still be friends. [:
just have friendly convos with him
How do i deal with an ex that keep sending me things saying im talking bout his new girl behind his back not!?
ya he keep sending me emails that he going to go off on me if i keep saying things about his new girl behind his back when realy i have not said a single thing to anyone about his new girl im realy nice about it. I don't care i broke up with him why should he care anyways.How do i deal with an ex that keep sending me things saying im talking bout his new girl behind his back not!?
show him that it pisses you off, if you didnt say anything, tell him. if he doesnt believe you just ignore him when he says that stuff to you
show him that it pisses you off, if you didnt say anything, tell him. if he doesnt believe you just ignore him when he says that stuff to you
How should i deal with me ex-friend?
she got mad at me one day. and now she throws stuff at me and talks **** about me. i already told her to stop.How should i deal with me ex-friend?
Go to a trusted adult and put a complaint against her. Write down everything she throws and says, write down the time, date, and where it happened. Keep a copy. How should i deal with me ex-friend?
ignore mayb shes attention seeking she wants ur attention if shes says arr your a slut instead of sayin shut up ur a slut say dats nice thanks for the comment and walk away she leave you alone in no time by reacting 2 her ur encouraging her
ANSWER MINE PLZ WAS I RIGHT 2 INSULT THIS WOMEN SHE WAS BULLIEN US AND DID SWEAR AT US 10PTS 4 BEST ANSWER
Go to a trusted adult and put a complaint against her. Write down everything she throws and says, write down the time, date, and where it happened. Keep a copy. How should i deal with me ex-friend?
ignore mayb shes attention seeking she wants ur attention if shes says arr your a slut instead of sayin shut up ur a slut say dats nice thanks for the comment and walk away she leave you alone in no time by reacting 2 her ur encouraging her
ANSWER MINE PLZ WAS I RIGHT 2 INSULT THIS WOMEN SHE WAS BULLIEN US AND DID SWEAR AT US 10PTS 4 BEST ANSWER
How did you deal with your ex's new girlfriend playing with your child?
i went to pick my 17 month old son up today from his fathers and there she was on the ground playing with my son like he was her own, i new she would of played with him before but to actually see it just hurt me so much, i mean thats my son, i brought him into the world, im the one who washes his clothes and im his mother! It just upset me that he is being 'shared'. Has anyone else felt like this? how did you get over it? How did you deal with your ex's new girlfriend playing with your child?
yep been there and now my ex's new wife and i get a long great and i know that she loves my son as much as i do but she also knows I'm his biological mother and she respects me and doesn't step on my toes. my son even calls her mom and I'm good with that because she is good to him. just be thankful that she is good to him and pays him attention. the more love he receives the more love he will give out in life! it will just take time and when you see that she is not trying to ';steal'; your son away you will be happy too. promise!
yep been there and now my ex's new wife and i get a long great and i know that she loves my son as much as i do but she also knows I'm his biological mother and she respects me and doesn't step on my toes. my son even calls her mom and I'm good with that because she is good to him. just be thankful that she is good to him and pays him attention. the more love he receives the more love he will give out in life! it will just take time and when you see that she is not trying to ';steal'; your son away you will be happy too. promise!
How do I deal with my ex-boyfriend?
My ex boyfriend and I do martial arts together and it's kinda a mess. I don't want to be friends anymore and I've been kinda passive aggressive almost about it...like he'll ask stuff and I'll respond in one word answers and such. But recently I've been told that I'm being too mean...but how do I be nicer? He reminds me of too many mistakesHow do I deal with my ex-boyfriend?
ok, if he's not a friend and not a boyfriend then he is just a human being. so treat him like one.
this means being polite, answering a question when asked. i smile to seem freindly. be how you would be with anyonelse.
and sure he reminds you of mistakes, but it doesn't need to get you down every time you see his face. accept you made mistakes. you won't make them again, so feel free to be polite to this guy.
ok, if he's not a friend and not a boyfriend then he is just a human being. so treat him like one.
this means being polite, answering a question when asked. i smile to seem freindly. be how you would be with anyonelse.
and sure he reminds you of mistakes, but it doesn't need to get you down every time you see his face. accept you made mistakes. you won't make them again, so feel free to be polite to this guy.
How should i deal with my ex?
me and my girlfriend just recently broke up (because she got mad at my parents not liking her) and she still wants to be best friends. Should i be her best friend and remain somewhat close to her or ignore her so that she misses me and hopefully wants to go back to being my girlfriend? I want to be her boyfriend and not just a friendHow should i deal with my ex?
There are so many ways to answer this question. For something so little as your parents not liking her that she broke up with you may mean that she didn't feel that you both had a romantic relationship and that she feels its better if you both just remain friends. Either you want to be her friend or not really is up to how you feel. Its doubtful that if you ignore her she will miss you enough to want to be your girlfriend again but rather will miss your friendship. Then again who knows? Maybe one last time remind her that you love her and want to be with her but if she again says no lets be friends, then it may be time to back off.How should i deal with my ex?
either way you guys being friends wont get you any where, will cause pain for you because youll never get the full thing and she will be content with where you guys ar ebecause you will still be in her life...my best suggestion is reccommend some time apart, that will help you see what it is you miss most and make sure what you feel is real..and will make her see that wether your parents hate her or not , she misses you and doesnt have the kind of closenesswith anyone else that she had with you
If you ignore you, she'll get the idea that you don't like her anymore and will move on to different guys. Just be friends with her; she'll be happy and you'll be halfway to boyfriend-dom. She obviously wants to be around you still if she wants to be best friends.
tell her that if she cant be your girlfriend she cant be your friend its not fair to you to be her friend because your parents don't like her...... she should feel flattered to know that you don't care what your parents opinion of her is because you're still going out with her.
Just give it a little time. I'm going through a breakup. It sucks. However, I recommend you don't be the guy that tries to manipulate a situation to rekindle a relationship. Just be her friend, or even better, tell her what you're feeling. It's really the best thing you can do.
She's a little immature, She should act more mature and lady like and maybe your parents would like her?
Well maybe for now you two should be friends,and talk about what you can change together a couple then decide if you Should go back out.
Good Luck!!
move on why would ya'll broke up just because your parents doesn't like iher
Smack her.
no offense but obviously if she got mad over that i dnt know why u wud wanna go back out with her??????????????????antivirus download ie tab
There are so many ways to answer this question. For something so little as your parents not liking her that she broke up with you may mean that she didn't feel that you both had a romantic relationship and that she feels its better if you both just remain friends. Either you want to be her friend or not really is up to how you feel. Its doubtful that if you ignore her she will miss you enough to want to be your girlfriend again but rather will miss your friendship. Then again who knows? Maybe one last time remind her that you love her and want to be with her but if she again says no lets be friends, then it may be time to back off.How should i deal with my ex?
either way you guys being friends wont get you any where, will cause pain for you because youll never get the full thing and she will be content with where you guys ar ebecause you will still be in her life...my best suggestion is reccommend some time apart, that will help you see what it is you miss most and make sure what you feel is real..and will make her see that wether your parents hate her or not , she misses you and doesnt have the kind of closenesswith anyone else that she had with you
If you ignore you, she'll get the idea that you don't like her anymore and will move on to different guys. Just be friends with her; she'll be happy and you'll be halfway to boyfriend-dom. She obviously wants to be around you still if she wants to be best friends.
tell her that if she cant be your girlfriend she cant be your friend its not fair to you to be her friend because your parents don't like her...... she should feel flattered to know that you don't care what your parents opinion of her is because you're still going out with her.
Just give it a little time. I'm going through a breakup. It sucks. However, I recommend you don't be the guy that tries to manipulate a situation to rekindle a relationship. Just be her friend, or even better, tell her what you're feeling. It's really the best thing you can do.
She's a little immature, She should act more mature and lady like and maybe your parents would like her?
Well maybe for now you two should be friends,and talk about what you can change together a couple then decide if you Should go back out.
Good Luck!!
move on why would ya'll broke up just because your parents doesn't like iher
Smack her.
no offense but obviously if she got mad over that i dnt know why u wud wanna go back out with her??????????????????
How can I deal with my ex trying to make me jealous when I want to get back together?
Well, it seems to me that your ex-boyfriend is making you jealous purposely to make you realize that you still have feelings for him. The good thing is, its working and its now time to make your own move. You can start reversing the situation and making him want you back by:
1. Get a makeover and let him see that you've improved. Dress up and show that you're confident with the new you.
2. If he's making you jealous then you can also do it to him. Let him see you on places that you both hang out mingling with friends and other boys. When you bumped into him be casual and never appear to be awkward. Make him see that you can play the game as well.
3.On top of it all, show confidence in what you're doing. This will definitely make him wonder what made you moved on and what made you different from the girl he used to date.
If these tips aren't enough, you can watch this video http://www.myloverback.com. It helped me get back with my ex-boyfriend fast.How can I deal with my ex trying to make me jealous when I want to get back together?
i'm in exactly the same situation:/ i ended it with my ex and now he has moved on and trying to make me jealous. What i have done is just ignore him, delete his messages, fb, msn etc. as much as we may still be friends, it makes it easier to get over. Also i found that writing a list of all the bad things about him and put it under your pillow or somewhere where you'll remember and look at it every day, soon you'll realise there are plenty more fish in the sea!
I hope this helps(: good luck xHow can I deal with my ex trying to make me jealous when I want to get back together?
Why you would want to get back together with someone who is purposely trying to make you jealous is beyond me.
Are you a glutton for punishment, or what?
drop her. yall broke up for a reason right? no reason in getting back together.
1. Get a makeover and let him see that you've improved. Dress up and show that you're confident with the new you.
2. If he's making you jealous then you can also do it to him. Let him see you on places that you both hang out mingling with friends and other boys. When you bumped into him be casual and never appear to be awkward. Make him see that you can play the game as well.
3.On top of it all, show confidence in what you're doing. This will definitely make him wonder what made you moved on and what made you different from the girl he used to date.
If these tips aren't enough, you can watch this video http://www.myloverback.com. It helped me get back with my ex-boyfriend fast.How can I deal with my ex trying to make me jealous when I want to get back together?
i'm in exactly the same situation:/ i ended it with my ex and now he has moved on and trying to make me jealous. What i have done is just ignore him, delete his messages, fb, msn etc. as much as we may still be friends, it makes it easier to get over. Also i found that writing a list of all the bad things about him and put it under your pillow or somewhere where you'll remember and look at it every day, soon you'll realise there are plenty more fish in the sea!
I hope this helps(: good luck xHow can I deal with my ex trying to make me jealous when I want to get back together?
Why you would want to get back together with someone who is purposely trying to make you jealous is beyond me.
Are you a glutton for punishment, or what?
drop her. yall broke up for a reason right? no reason in getting back together.
How do i as a guy trying to date a girl, deal with the ex-boyfriend?
she had lunch with him today and told me how she thought they could be friends but expressed that wasn't possible anymore. How to I react and respond (looking for something to say to win her in a sense)?How do i as a guy trying to date a girl, deal with the ex-boyfriend?
dont freek out and try to b a tough guy. the girl hates that cuz she might still b friends with him. but if he isnt and is flirting with her tell him nicely to back off. if it keeps happening THEN you can get mad but never get into a fight. for some reason it just makes the whole thing worse.
hope this helps!!
dont freek out and try to b a tough guy. the girl hates that cuz she might still b friends with him. but if he isnt and is flirting with her tell him nicely to back off. if it keeps happening THEN you can get mad but never get into a fight. for some reason it just makes the whole thing worse.
hope this helps!!
How do i deal with her ex husband?
They were married and had an awesome son together. They are now divorced. She told me that sometimes when he comes to pick up her son, he will ask her if she ever thinks about him or if she would give him another chance. I trust her and she tells me i have nothing to worry about. But it really ticks me off that he is doing this knowing she is in a relationship. What should i do? If i kick his ***, Im the bad guy. If I let this keep on, he might put some doubts in her head. HELPHow do i deal with her ex husband?
Listen, I divorced my ex-husband 2 1/2 years ago and I am now engaged to someone else. I was the one who ended the relationship for a variety of reasons. Not all of it was bad, but the majority of it wasn't good and so I chose to end it after 19 years (we married when I was 16). We have two great kids together who are now young adults, so we don't necessarily ';need'; to communicate, BUT, that doesn't mean that he doesn't try.
My fiance really dislikes it if he knows about my ex calling. Why? Because when he calls, he tells me he misses me, that he is so sorry, that he wants me back and frequently tells me he still loves me. Sometimes he even ends the conversation by saying, ';I love you.'; I ignore him and recently put a stop to the calls all together. This is something you can't do because they have a young son together and he will be around for a while. But, you can certainly talk to the man and tell him to STOP disrespecting YOUR wife and your MARRIAGE with his idiotic questions.
You don't need to beat him up. He does that to himself everytime he picks up his son at the home his ex-wife shares with her new husband. =o)
How do i deal with her ex husband?
keep your head on straight, you are the new guy in the old relationship. I know it's hard to believe that those two would have anything in common but you have to look at the fact that they spent some significant time together, they even had a son together. (I think they did something together to cause that, what is it called?) Love the kid, love the reason the kid was created.
Don't feel threatened by his remarks and definitely don't speak to him like he threatens you or in a way that says he did something wrong, because your girl friend will pick up on it right away and lose faith in the confidence you have of who you are.
If you want to talk bad about the father of her awesome son, do it here, or with your buddies when she's not around.
It is not what ';u'; should do it should be phrased what should SHE do! She is the only one that can stop this inappropriate behaviour. Try not to involve yourself because yes u are very right, u will be the bad guy. You need to sit with her and tell her that this is unacceptable to u and if she truly loves u and respects u she will talk to him and let him know she is there if he needs to talk about problems with there son, but it is not to go further than that. The more she lets this continue, the more he will think he has a chance. If she isn't willing to do this for u then u really need to re-think her motives and her love for u. Good luck and by the way I would be very ticked at this also, u are in the right on this subject. Good luck
Keep your mouth shut pertaining to approaching the ex because you are still the outsider and Yes YOU will look like the bad guy. They have a child together which means they are going to have contact with each other for the rest of thier lives. They also have a history which I am sure they do miss each other in some way. BUT something must have went wrong somewhere, b/c they did break up or divorce Your relationship is with yoiur girl. Calmly discuss this situation with her and tell her how it makes you feel. Just a friendly word of warning, be prepared for the worst. Sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder. You may hear something you wont like somewhere down the line but you may not. Be supportive in the meantime. She may be feeling messed up herself.
The guy probably hurt her deeply enough to the point she knows better by now. And he is most likely kicking himself in the you know what for messing it up. Trust when I say that there is nothing more pitiful than a man begging to a woman. Dont stress, and next time he comes over and you are there, show her your confidence and support by welcoming him in, shaking his hand, and do some small talk. She will also love the fact that you are getting him out of her way. Hope this helps a bit.
Trust your wife. They got divorced for a reason. That reason probably hasn't gone away.
If you do something bad to the guy you will become the bad guy. Be nice to him and tolerate his limited presence. Getting mad or being belligerent toward him will probably actually work against you. That might even push her toward him. Just be as nice to your wife as you can and work on her and her sons happiness. That is your best insurance.
Conversations and the parenting relationship between your girlfriend and her ex, aren't your issue.. just because she's your girlfriend doesn't mean you have to rush to solve her ';problems'; -- apparently she's an adult, after all she was married and had a child. I think that it's appropriate to let her handle herself in the way she deems appropriate.
She tells you these things probably because she wants your support and care. I don't know. We all think differently. I wouldn't tell you if you were my guy, but i am an independent thinker, and don't have to repeat every, stupid thing i hear.
Your girlfriend's ex has obviously found out the grass isn't greener on the other side...
Still, you can't control what her ex says.
If you think your girlfriend will rush back to her ex, maybe you don't know her that well. Or perhaps you have some insecurity issues.
She's with you not him.
You didn't say how long you you were together. Is there any chance that the two of you may get married as well?
They have a son together, so they will always be having contact with each other, but he is out of line. She is the one that should put a stop to her ex's behavior. You should tell her that the ex's behavior is making you very uncomfortable. Knowing that, she should be able to put an end to it.
You're in a really hard spot here. If they do happen to work things out and can have a healthy relationship that's the best for their son. If they can't then you can be there to be with her.
It's a situation where you need to know your place.
The standard rules are thrown out the window when a child is involved and that's something you need to understand if you're going to be dating a woman with kids.
if you do not trust her why are you with her he cannot put anything in her head but he obvious knows he can get a reaction from you she will have to deal with him for the rest of her life that is the father of her son i am sure if she wanted to be with him she would be she needs a friend to lean on someone level headed who is big enough to walk away and be there if she needs someone to turn to, to feel free to share her inner most feelings and have an ear that will listen and not expect anything in return earn her respect
Dont beat him up unless he touches you and then you can do it and get away with it. Shes telling you what hes saying. If she wanted him she could have him and never tell you. The thing about ex's is that we know what it was like being with them and dont want them back because we remember the bads. Be cool with her. I would listen to your gut. Do you think she has any leftover desire for him? I would only be concerned if you feel that she does.
Well, if he is able to put doubts in her head, she wasn't yours to begin with. I'd say leave him alone and to be honest, she shouldn't be telling you this everytime he does this if it's nothing to worry about. Tell her someone hit on you and see how she likes it.
If you love your wife, and your wife loves you, there is trust in the relationship. Trust her, no second thoughts, plus, you could tell if she was..uh..cheating or whatever. She obviously left him for a reason, right?
Why dont you go with your wife when she picks up her son? Good Luck!
sit down and talk to the guy thats the mature thing to do and then after that u wont be the bad guy in every ones eyes if u kick his *** after that jsut tell him to stop and if he still does then kick his *** as simple as that
i think you should be asking her why she feels it necessary to tell you about this if theres nothing to worry about. is she trying to make you jealous? why else would she do it... i think you should be there when he comes and stay close.
Yeah, fighting him isn't advisable. It will only make you look bad in the end. If ';doubts'; are produced because of her ex, then her feeling's for you were never that strong to begin with.
I'd say, since she won't tell him to back off, then you do it. With her permission, of course. If she doesn't give it, maybe she's not as into the relationship as you are. Good luck!!!
Either you trust her or you don't.
woop his *ss
This is between him and her. If the two of you have something solid, he's not going to talk her into going back to him. They're divorced for a reason, whatever it is.
My ex did that for a while. I'd go over to pick up my daughter and he'd want to talk or hang out or cuddle at first, and I'd say no, and eventually he decided he didn't like me anyway. (I think. Not that I'm really privy to what goes on in his head anymore.) Rather than making me feel doubts about my relationship, my ex just made me feel uncomfortable until he stopped trying to be friendly.
So what to do... talk with your girlfriend about how inappropriate you feel the ex's remarks are, and that you're glad she discourages them (if that seems to be true). Otherwise, stay out of it. You're right that if you go and pick a fight with him about it, you'll look like a bozo. Telling him she'll date him again when hell freezes over and pigs fly is her job, not yours.
Listen, I divorced my ex-husband 2 1/2 years ago and I am now engaged to someone else. I was the one who ended the relationship for a variety of reasons. Not all of it was bad, but the majority of it wasn't good and so I chose to end it after 19 years (we married when I was 16). We have two great kids together who are now young adults, so we don't necessarily ';need'; to communicate, BUT, that doesn't mean that he doesn't try.
My fiance really dislikes it if he knows about my ex calling. Why? Because when he calls, he tells me he misses me, that he is so sorry, that he wants me back and frequently tells me he still loves me. Sometimes he even ends the conversation by saying, ';I love you.'; I ignore him and recently put a stop to the calls all together. This is something you can't do because they have a young son together and he will be around for a while. But, you can certainly talk to the man and tell him to STOP disrespecting YOUR wife and your MARRIAGE with his idiotic questions.
You don't need to beat him up. He does that to himself everytime he picks up his son at the home his ex-wife shares with her new husband. =o)
How do i deal with her ex husband?
keep your head on straight, you are the new guy in the old relationship. I know it's hard to believe that those two would have anything in common but you have to look at the fact that they spent some significant time together, they even had a son together. (I think they did something together to cause that, what is it called?) Love the kid, love the reason the kid was created.
Don't feel threatened by his remarks and definitely don't speak to him like he threatens you or in a way that says he did something wrong, because your girl friend will pick up on it right away and lose faith in the confidence you have of who you are.
If you want to talk bad about the father of her awesome son, do it here, or with your buddies when she's not around.
It is not what ';u'; should do it should be phrased what should SHE do! She is the only one that can stop this inappropriate behaviour. Try not to involve yourself because yes u are very right, u will be the bad guy. You need to sit with her and tell her that this is unacceptable to u and if she truly loves u and respects u she will talk to him and let him know she is there if he needs to talk about problems with there son, but it is not to go further than that. The more she lets this continue, the more he will think he has a chance. If she isn't willing to do this for u then u really need to re-think her motives and her love for u. Good luck and by the way I would be very ticked at this also, u are in the right on this subject. Good luck
Keep your mouth shut pertaining to approaching the ex because you are still the outsider and Yes YOU will look like the bad guy. They have a child together which means they are going to have contact with each other for the rest of thier lives. They also have a history which I am sure they do miss each other in some way. BUT something must have went wrong somewhere, b/c they did break up or divorce Your relationship is with yoiur girl. Calmly discuss this situation with her and tell her how it makes you feel. Just a friendly word of warning, be prepared for the worst. Sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder. You may hear something you wont like somewhere down the line but you may not. Be supportive in the meantime. She may be feeling messed up herself.
The guy probably hurt her deeply enough to the point she knows better by now. And he is most likely kicking himself in the you know what for messing it up. Trust when I say that there is nothing more pitiful than a man begging to a woman. Dont stress, and next time he comes over and you are there, show her your confidence and support by welcoming him in, shaking his hand, and do some small talk. She will also love the fact that you are getting him out of her way. Hope this helps a bit.
Trust your wife. They got divorced for a reason. That reason probably hasn't gone away.
If you do something bad to the guy you will become the bad guy. Be nice to him and tolerate his limited presence. Getting mad or being belligerent toward him will probably actually work against you. That might even push her toward him. Just be as nice to your wife as you can and work on her and her sons happiness. That is your best insurance.
Conversations and the parenting relationship between your girlfriend and her ex, aren't your issue.. just because she's your girlfriend doesn't mean you have to rush to solve her ';problems'; -- apparently she's an adult, after all she was married and had a child. I think that it's appropriate to let her handle herself in the way she deems appropriate.
She tells you these things probably because she wants your support and care. I don't know. We all think differently. I wouldn't tell you if you were my guy, but i am an independent thinker, and don't have to repeat every, stupid thing i hear.
Your girlfriend's ex has obviously found out the grass isn't greener on the other side...
Still, you can't control what her ex says.
If you think your girlfriend will rush back to her ex, maybe you don't know her that well. Or perhaps you have some insecurity issues.
She's with you not him.
You didn't say how long you you were together. Is there any chance that the two of you may get married as well?
They have a son together, so they will always be having contact with each other, but he is out of line. She is the one that should put a stop to her ex's behavior. You should tell her that the ex's behavior is making you very uncomfortable. Knowing that, she should be able to put an end to it.
You're in a really hard spot here. If they do happen to work things out and can have a healthy relationship that's the best for their son. If they can't then you can be there to be with her.
It's a situation where you need to know your place.
The standard rules are thrown out the window when a child is involved and that's something you need to understand if you're going to be dating a woman with kids.
if you do not trust her why are you with her he cannot put anything in her head but he obvious knows he can get a reaction from you she will have to deal with him for the rest of her life that is the father of her son i am sure if she wanted to be with him she would be she needs a friend to lean on someone level headed who is big enough to walk away and be there if she needs someone to turn to, to feel free to share her inner most feelings and have an ear that will listen and not expect anything in return earn her respect
Dont beat him up unless he touches you and then you can do it and get away with it. Shes telling you what hes saying. If she wanted him she could have him and never tell you. The thing about ex's is that we know what it was like being with them and dont want them back because we remember the bads. Be cool with her. I would listen to your gut. Do you think she has any leftover desire for him? I would only be concerned if you feel that she does.
Well, if he is able to put doubts in her head, she wasn't yours to begin with. I'd say leave him alone and to be honest, she shouldn't be telling you this everytime he does this if it's nothing to worry about. Tell her someone hit on you and see how she likes it.
If you love your wife, and your wife loves you, there is trust in the relationship. Trust her, no second thoughts, plus, you could tell if she was..uh..cheating or whatever. She obviously left him for a reason, right?
Why dont you go with your wife when she picks up her son? Good Luck!
sit down and talk to the guy thats the mature thing to do and then after that u wont be the bad guy in every ones eyes if u kick his *** after that jsut tell him to stop and if he still does then kick his *** as simple as that
i think you should be asking her why she feels it necessary to tell you about this if theres nothing to worry about. is she trying to make you jealous? why else would she do it... i think you should be there when he comes and stay close.
Yeah, fighting him isn't advisable. It will only make you look bad in the end. If ';doubts'; are produced because of her ex, then her feeling's for you were never that strong to begin with.
I'd say, since she won't tell him to back off, then you do it. With her permission, of course. If she doesn't give it, maybe she's not as into the relationship as you are. Good luck!!!
Either you trust her or you don't.
woop his *ss
This is between him and her. If the two of you have something solid, he's not going to talk her into going back to him. They're divorced for a reason, whatever it is.
My ex did that for a while. I'd go over to pick up my daughter and he'd want to talk or hang out or cuddle at first, and I'd say no, and eventually he decided he didn't like me anyway. (I think. Not that I'm really privy to what goes on in his head anymore.) Rather than making me feel doubts about my relationship, my ex just made me feel uncomfortable until he stopped trying to be friendly.
So what to do... talk with your girlfriend about how inappropriate you feel the ex's remarks are, and that you're glad she discourages them (if that seems to be true). Otherwise, stay out of it. You're right that if you go and pick a fight with him about it, you'll look like a bozo. Telling him she'll date him again when hell freezes over and pigs fly is her job, not yours.
How to deal with girlfriends ex hookups?
i'm not sure about anyone else, but it really really gets to me when i think about guys my girlfriend has done stuff with (anything from making out to right below sex). If i see pictures of them or just think about it my blood boils. is that just me? is there anything i can really do to make myself not so uptight about it?How to deal with girlfriends ex hookups?
Nothing in the her past matters as long as it was before you were in the picture. Just like nothing in your past should matter to her. Jealousy is an ugly thing that will make you lose her for sure. Instead of being jealous of her previous relationships just be happy that you are the guy that she chose to be with, that should mean a lot to you.How to deal with girlfriends ex hookups?
My boyfriend is extremely annoyed because I was with a boy for 2 years and did everything possible out there with him. And hooked up with a guy when I was single(one of his friends), and went out with my bf's best friend about a year ago and made-out with him and he fingered me. He gets soooo upset at it, but now he just said ';Me and you are making a fresh start as if we've never done anything'; and he got over it kinda. Just focus on giving her more pleasure, don't bother wasting your time thinking about other guys, that pisses girls off badly. My boyfriend was also a virgin though...
Nothing in the her past matters as long as it was before you were in the picture. Just like nothing in your past should matter to her. Jealousy is an ugly thing that will make you lose her for sure. Instead of being jealous of her previous relationships just be happy that you are the guy that she chose to be with, that should mean a lot to you.How to deal with girlfriends ex hookups?
My boyfriend is extremely annoyed because I was with a boy for 2 years and did everything possible out there with him. And hooked up with a guy when I was single(one of his friends), and went out with my bf's best friend about a year ago and made-out with him and he fingered me. He gets soooo upset at it, but now he just said ';Me and you are making a fresh start as if we've never done anything'; and he got over it kinda. Just focus on giving her more pleasure, don't bother wasting your time thinking about other guys, that pisses girls off badly. My boyfriend was also a virgin though...
Husband moves back in with ex to deal with childs emotional prob?
My soulmate, dearest friend in the world husband just announced to me that he needs to move back in to his ex's home to be with his kids. We have been married 2 years. He has 2 kids - a daughter 15 and son 19. The son is having some emotional difficulties with anger etc...He says he doesn't know how long this will take. His ex-wife and I have discussed the fact she has no feelings for him anymore and the son said he needs his dad there. My husband does not want me to divorce him and wants me to give him time to deal with this and not give up on him. His ex-wife has instructed my husband that he will have to sleep in his son's room also. How long should I let this go on? I just happened today, but husband has dealt with guilt for a while. I feel left out in the cold as this seems like it could take years. My husband still wants to come take care of my household chores but theirs too. We have no kids together but I do. This is weird. He wants to be married to me. Help!!!Husband moves back in with ex to deal with childs emotional prob?
I don't think hes leaving.He could have handled the problem with out moving in.Husband moves back in with ex to deal with childs emotional prob?
sounds pretty far fetched to me.....not sure that this is the best solution for anyone let alone the son who will certainly be getting mixed messages...this is something that should be handled by professionals and I doubt they would agree with this arrangement.....
That's weird. That's shockingly weird. Maybe the son should move in with you guys...if that's not an option, kiss your marriage good bye!
Years!? I dont think I could do that. If it was a shorter time period maybe but thats so long. Why cant the son move in with you or the son in father get a place together. That might make you feel more comfortable with it.
it could be solved by moving the kid in with him and you. he wants out. no one could be that dumb.
I'm so sorry for this situation which has been forced on you. I believe that a 19 year old's anger issues should be dealt with professionally rather than by amateurs. If his emotional issues are as serious as is being presented to you, putting the father back into the picture is not going to solve the emotional problems but will serve to make them less likely to be resolved.
If the family truly believes that being around his ';missing'; father is the solution, why don't you and your husband let the son move into your home, make him go to school and get a job, so he can learn to be self-sufficient.
p.s., This is such an unusual situation that I think you should question everyone's version of this story. Protect yourself legally by consulting a matrimonial attorney quietly without your husband knowing you are doing so.
This son of his is manipulating this whole thing. He is 19, legally an adult! If he has ';anger'; issues he needs to get counseling for them. If your husband gives into this now, he will never have a back bone. Yep, they are his kids. But he's your husband! These children aren't little anymore. They are old enough to understand that Dad has a new wife and an new life. Sounds like he is available for the children, but they are demanding more...I would NOT let this happen. I know it's something he has to come to terms with. He would blame you if you tried to stop him, but you should push him towards NOT moving in and arranging some professional counseling for his children and his ex-wife.
Think about this....If he puts the well being of his children ahead of the well being of his marraige, then he should never have left them in the first place.
Sorry, but either your ';dearest friend'; is lying to you or is less than intelligent. At 19 his son is a grown man. Any issues your husband can help him deal with now do not require that ';daddy'; is there 24/7 holding his hand. Your husband probably feels responsible for the boy's problems, but he is wrecking your life to try to rectify past mistakes. Simply ask him not to do to his current family what he feels guilty about having done to his first family. Do NOT accept this living arrangement, or your marriage is essentially destroyed.
This sounds pretty strange to me. He can help his kids WITHOUT moving back into his ex's house. If his son has anger issues he might not be able to help him anyway. He may need professional help.
Im sorry but i think you need to kiss your marriage good bye and leave and get what is due you and your kids and move on . Your husband is obviosly not man enough to speak up to his ex wife and tell her to blow off cause he was not moving in this is just going to confuse the son and it will never end . the boy will continue to have problems . the ex will always expect the dad to handle them . Just go you cannot win in this one and it is time to move on . Get a divorce lawyer and be done with it .
It's just a lame excuse for him to leave you
well he left his wife for you so he may turn it around it may back fire you may wind up hurt his ex wife might been hurt but put up with it for thier kids yeah right hes not sleeping with her just there for his son you better hope thats all
I don't think hes leaving.He could have handled the problem with out moving in.Husband moves back in with ex to deal with childs emotional prob?
sounds pretty far fetched to me.....not sure that this is the best solution for anyone let alone the son who will certainly be getting mixed messages...this is something that should be handled by professionals and I doubt they would agree with this arrangement.....
That's weird. That's shockingly weird. Maybe the son should move in with you guys...if that's not an option, kiss your marriage good bye!
Years!? I dont think I could do that. If it was a shorter time period maybe but thats so long. Why cant the son move in with you or the son in father get a place together. That might make you feel more comfortable with it.
it could be solved by moving the kid in with him and you. he wants out. no one could be that dumb.
I'm so sorry for this situation which has been forced on you. I believe that a 19 year old's anger issues should be dealt with professionally rather than by amateurs. If his emotional issues are as serious as is being presented to you, putting the father back into the picture is not going to solve the emotional problems but will serve to make them less likely to be resolved.
If the family truly believes that being around his ';missing'; father is the solution, why don't you and your husband let the son move into your home, make him go to school and get a job, so he can learn to be self-sufficient.
p.s., This is such an unusual situation that I think you should question everyone's version of this story. Protect yourself legally by consulting a matrimonial attorney quietly without your husband knowing you are doing so.
This son of his is manipulating this whole thing. He is 19, legally an adult! If he has ';anger'; issues he needs to get counseling for them. If your husband gives into this now, he will never have a back bone. Yep, they are his kids. But he's your husband! These children aren't little anymore. They are old enough to understand that Dad has a new wife and an new life. Sounds like he is available for the children, but they are demanding more...I would NOT let this happen. I know it's something he has to come to terms with. He would blame you if you tried to stop him, but you should push him towards NOT moving in and arranging some professional counseling for his children and his ex-wife.
Think about this....If he puts the well being of his children ahead of the well being of his marraige, then he should never have left them in the first place.
Sorry, but either your ';dearest friend'; is lying to you or is less than intelligent. At 19 his son is a grown man. Any issues your husband can help him deal with now do not require that ';daddy'; is there 24/7 holding his hand. Your husband probably feels responsible for the boy's problems, but he is wrecking your life to try to rectify past mistakes. Simply ask him not to do to his current family what he feels guilty about having done to his first family. Do NOT accept this living arrangement, or your marriage is essentially destroyed.
This sounds pretty strange to me. He can help his kids WITHOUT moving back into his ex's house. If his son has anger issues he might not be able to help him anyway. He may need professional help.
Im sorry but i think you need to kiss your marriage good bye and leave and get what is due you and your kids and move on . Your husband is obviosly not man enough to speak up to his ex wife and tell her to blow off cause he was not moving in this is just going to confuse the son and it will never end . the boy will continue to have problems . the ex will always expect the dad to handle them . Just go you cannot win in this one and it is time to move on . Get a divorce lawyer and be done with it .
It's just a lame excuse for him to leave you
well he left his wife for you so he may turn it around it may back fire you may wind up hurt his ex wife might been hurt but put up with it for thier kids yeah right hes not sleeping with her just there for his son you better hope thats all
How do I deal with my ex's new wife?
My ex just got remarried. Now his new wife is telling my kids that they should call HER mom! I have tried to talk calmly with them about how I don't like it but he don't care either way and she just yells. Now she is being rude to my children and he does nothing about it. What can I do about it? By the way... the new wife and I got along fine before they got married. She even had me watching her kids.How do I deal with my ex's new wife?
your going to have to deal with this woman for a long time, so best to try not to fight with her, because it does seem as if she controls the show. she seems like someone that likes to be in control, and won't listen to anything u say anyway. unfortunately this is what sometimes happens when there's a new wife in the picture.How do I deal with my ex's new wife?
Why did you make such a big deal about how they addressed her? It's only a title and it doesn't take anything away from you. It would have been possible to make them more secure by feeling there was a loving mom and a real mom. Instead you ended up with someone who now you can fight with forever and have put your kids in the middle of the dumbest battle you ever fought. Some day your kids are going to thank you as they leave for another session at the shrinks because of you.
Your kids should be able to choose whether they want to call HER mom or not. They shouldn't be forced... So, if they choose to call her, then they do. I wouldn't worry about it. My son had a relationship with his step-mother's parents and it never affected me. They never mistreated him
You didn't say what she was doing to be rude to your kids.
Live and let live is what you can do, i guess. That's what i did after i was divorced and my ex got remarried.
If your ex won't back you up I guess you'll just have to try and calmly explain that the only person your kids are going to call ';mom'; is you. If it gets too bad with her yelling or being rude, tell the ex it might be time to go back to family court so you can get sole custody of the kids.
OK....to me this is a no brainer, but I would tell the winch in no uncertain terms that she aint my kids mama. Period, point blank. Sounds to me like its a power struggle and she's letting you know she's the new sheriff, but I'd tell the winch to back up when it comes to my kids, I'd tell her '; The day you $hit my kids out your a## will be the day they can call you mama!!!';';
I wouldn't worry about it, you pick your battles when it comes to custody stuff. I'd be more concerned about the way she treats your children. That's whats important.
It doesn't really matter what they call her because they know that you are their mother and not her.
she has a problem ,, just tell the kids to address her by her first name .
tell her about her self let her know how you feel and you dont like hows shes acting with your kids
Your kids have the right to choose who they call mom, so chill. Starting a fight about it is bad for the kids. You are just as guilty for causing your kids grief by starting a childish fight. I allowed my son to choose what he wanted to call his step mom and he chose to call her by her first name. Pressuring your kids is a bad idea. How do you know she is being rude to your kids? Are you 100% for sure your kids are not trying to manipulate you as a way to get attention. My step son went this route and had his mom believing all kinds of garbage--he got counseling and she got told her child was manipulating the situation to get attention from her. Unfortunately for her she took the situation to far before she got him to counseling and she ended up doing a little jail time for her actions. You need to stop and think--you also need to be realistic in the fact that some things your child may be telling you might not be the truth. Instead of starting fights why don't you call and talk civil with the new step mom to see what her take on the situation is before you take it too far. I am also a bio mom of a child who has a step mom and he knows if he accuses her of any thing it better be the truth because I do call and act like a civilized person to see what her side is. Needless to say my son knows no manipulation to get attention will ever work with me. All I am saying is make sure of FACTS before you fly lose or you will end up paying the consequences. Children often don't know manipulation is wrong, but as an adult you need to be aware of how high the numbers are on children using this method for attention.antivirus download ie tab
your going to have to deal with this woman for a long time, so best to try not to fight with her, because it does seem as if she controls the show. she seems like someone that likes to be in control, and won't listen to anything u say anyway. unfortunately this is what sometimes happens when there's a new wife in the picture.How do I deal with my ex's new wife?
Why did you make such a big deal about how they addressed her? It's only a title and it doesn't take anything away from you. It would have been possible to make them more secure by feeling there was a loving mom and a real mom. Instead you ended up with someone who now you can fight with forever and have put your kids in the middle of the dumbest battle you ever fought. Some day your kids are going to thank you as they leave for another session at the shrinks because of you.
Your kids should be able to choose whether they want to call HER mom or not. They shouldn't be forced... So, if they choose to call her, then they do. I wouldn't worry about it. My son had a relationship with his step-mother's parents and it never affected me. They never mistreated him
You didn't say what she was doing to be rude to your kids.
Live and let live is what you can do, i guess. That's what i did after i was divorced and my ex got remarried.
If your ex won't back you up I guess you'll just have to try and calmly explain that the only person your kids are going to call ';mom'; is you. If it gets too bad with her yelling or being rude, tell the ex it might be time to go back to family court so you can get sole custody of the kids.
OK....to me this is a no brainer, but I would tell the winch in no uncertain terms that she aint my kids mama. Period, point blank. Sounds to me like its a power struggle and she's letting you know she's the new sheriff, but I'd tell the winch to back up when it comes to my kids, I'd tell her '; The day you $hit my kids out your a## will be the day they can call you mama!!!';';
I wouldn't worry about it, you pick your battles when it comes to custody stuff. I'd be more concerned about the way she treats your children. That's whats important.
It doesn't really matter what they call her because they know that you are their mother and not her.
she has a problem ,, just tell the kids to address her by her first name .
tell her about her self let her know how you feel and you dont like hows shes acting with your kids
Your kids have the right to choose who they call mom, so chill. Starting a fight about it is bad for the kids. You are just as guilty for causing your kids grief by starting a childish fight. I allowed my son to choose what he wanted to call his step mom and he chose to call her by her first name. Pressuring your kids is a bad idea. How do you know she is being rude to your kids? Are you 100% for sure your kids are not trying to manipulate you as a way to get attention. My step son went this route and had his mom believing all kinds of garbage--he got counseling and she got told her child was manipulating the situation to get attention from her. Unfortunately for her she took the situation to far before she got him to counseling and she ended up doing a little jail time for her actions. You need to stop and think--you also need to be realistic in the fact that some things your child may be telling you might not be the truth. Instead of starting fights why don't you call and talk civil with the new step mom to see what her take on the situation is before you take it too far. I am also a bio mom of a child who has a step mom and he knows if he accuses her of any thing it better be the truth because I do call and act like a civilized person to see what her side is. Needless to say my son knows no manipulation to get attention will ever work with me. All I am saying is make sure of FACTS before you fly lose or you will end up paying the consequences. Children often don't know manipulation is wrong, but as an adult you need to be aware of how high the numbers are on children using this method for attention.
How do I deal with an ex-supermarket manager who gives me dirty looks?
I shopped every week last 10 yrs at a local supermarket spending about $200 a week. Its a filthy store, the people who work there are nosey. Also one time I only spent $50, the manager ran over and said ';fill up your cart, spend more money';.. The deleivery guy was always complaining about carrying my stuff..My friend told me about an online supermarket here in NYC called Fresh Direct. You order online, they deleiver to your door. I used them and they were great and the food was very clean and fresh unlike this supermarket delevery guys are very happy and nice to bring my packages.
I pass by the old supermarket to get home, past few months the manager just stares at me, giving a nasty look, not saying anything. recently ..manager ran over to me and said ';have you been on vacation';? I said ';no I use fresh direct now, the online supermarket, its great';. His mouth dropped, starred at me, saying nothing and i walked away. He continues to stare at me.
How do I deal with this Person?How do I deal with an ex-supermarket manager who gives me dirty looks?
If that place is as horrible as you say, they'll be losing more than just your business. I think you when he asked you if you'd been on vacation, you should have been honest about why they lost your business. Maybe you should open up that conversation now. They should know that they are unpleasant and putting too much pressure on their customers.
However, if you don't want to do that (you're under no obligation to, obviously), then my suggestion is that you either smile and wave or don't look at him at all as you pass by. I'd smile and wave - it may startle him enough that he'll stop giving you looks. Or you could just approach him and say that you understand that they are upset that they lost your business, but you'd appreciate if he would stop with the hostile looks.How do I deal with an ex-supermarket manager who gives me dirty looks?
flip him the bird, its NYC, he will get it!!! LOL
I think you're paranoid. I don't care where you live, you could avoid this place if you wanted to. You just don't want to, or you see these behaviors no matter where you go. Sorry if I sound like I am being harsh. I believe people should hear the truth.
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ignore him. OR just tell him your reason for why you stopped shopping at his store. maybe he'll get the hint
ignore him, it's your prerogative to shop where you want with no explanation to him. if he approaches you again, tell him to stop harrassing you or you will go to the authorities.
he'll get over it, esp with his pushiness to tell u to fill up ur cart more. he should be embarassed. i live in nyc and no one has ever spoken to me like that so i would just smile and wave if he gives u dirty looks, maybe he shoudl work on being more friendly and it might win u back as a customer.
Next time this happens, and he gives you the dirty look, stop and look him straight in the face and say, ';If it weren't for your lousy customer service and snarky attitude, I'd still be shopping here. It's no one's fault but your own that you're losing business.'; Then, walk on.
I would not look in his direction. If he keep bothering you tell him look stop staring at me, I don't like your market anymore leave me alone.
Walk on the opposite side of the street. I might take you out of the way, but at the same time we all need a little bit of exercise.
If that store is dirty as you say it is,you can report them to the Department of Health for it.A grocery store should not be that dirty,It's unsanitary and who knows what you can get from the food.Report them to the Health Department as soon as possible for the publics safety.
Tellhim that he's starting to annoy you.Tell him you aren't rude to him.Don't be too brash but, be assertive whatever you do don't whine.If he continues ignore him.
Say your schedule has gotten so hectic you had to go to an online service but you'll stop in next time you have some extra time.
It sounds like the supermarket manager has the problem, not you. You fixed your problem by using a different method of purchasing your groceries, solving your problem of rude, nosey and annoying grocery employees.
Now you have to deal with the manager STILL being rude. I would just ignore him. It doesn't take long to walk past the store and I hope he isn't out there everyday you walk home. Just consider it the price you are paying for a better grocery experience. At least you don't have to go in the store anymore!
The best strategy is to ignore him completely. Don't even look at the store as you pass by. This person has obviously no idea of what would bring you back to his store (cleanliness, efficiency, fresh products, friendliness). Pretend to be on your cell phone as you pass by. That usually connotes a complete lack of interest in your surroundings.
Ignore him. You told them one time why you were not coming there. Don't let dirty looks bother you.
I pass by the old supermarket to get home, past few months the manager just stares at me, giving a nasty look, not saying anything. recently ..manager ran over to me and said ';have you been on vacation';? I said ';no I use fresh direct now, the online supermarket, its great';. His mouth dropped, starred at me, saying nothing and i walked away. He continues to stare at me.
How do I deal with this Person?How do I deal with an ex-supermarket manager who gives me dirty looks?
If that place is as horrible as you say, they'll be losing more than just your business. I think you when he asked you if you'd been on vacation, you should have been honest about why they lost your business. Maybe you should open up that conversation now. They should know that they are unpleasant and putting too much pressure on their customers.
However, if you don't want to do that (you're under no obligation to, obviously), then my suggestion is that you either smile and wave or don't look at him at all as you pass by. I'd smile and wave - it may startle him enough that he'll stop giving you looks. Or you could just approach him and say that you understand that they are upset that they lost your business, but you'd appreciate if he would stop with the hostile looks.How do I deal with an ex-supermarket manager who gives me dirty looks?
flip him the bird, its NYC, he will get it!!! LOL
I think you're paranoid. I don't care where you live, you could avoid this place if you wanted to. You just don't want to, or you see these behaviors no matter where you go. Sorry if I sound like I am being harsh. I believe people should hear the truth.
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ignore him. OR just tell him your reason for why you stopped shopping at his store. maybe he'll get the hint
ignore him, it's your prerogative to shop where you want with no explanation to him. if he approaches you again, tell him to stop harrassing you or you will go to the authorities.
he'll get over it, esp with his pushiness to tell u to fill up ur cart more. he should be embarassed. i live in nyc and no one has ever spoken to me like that so i would just smile and wave if he gives u dirty looks, maybe he shoudl work on being more friendly and it might win u back as a customer.
Next time this happens, and he gives you the dirty look, stop and look him straight in the face and say, ';If it weren't for your lousy customer service and snarky attitude, I'd still be shopping here. It's no one's fault but your own that you're losing business.'; Then, walk on.
I would not look in his direction. If he keep bothering you tell him look stop staring at me, I don't like your market anymore leave me alone.
Walk on the opposite side of the street. I might take you out of the way, but at the same time we all need a little bit of exercise.
If that store is dirty as you say it is,you can report them to the Department of Health for it.A grocery store should not be that dirty,It's unsanitary and who knows what you can get from the food.Report them to the Health Department as soon as possible for the publics safety.
Tellhim that he's starting to annoy you.Tell him you aren't rude to him.Don't be too brash but, be assertive whatever you do don't whine.If he continues ignore him.
Say your schedule has gotten so hectic you had to go to an online service but you'll stop in next time you have some extra time.
It sounds like the supermarket manager has the problem, not you. You fixed your problem by using a different method of purchasing your groceries, solving your problem of rude, nosey and annoying grocery employees.
Now you have to deal with the manager STILL being rude. I would just ignore him. It doesn't take long to walk past the store and I hope he isn't out there everyday you walk home. Just consider it the price you are paying for a better grocery experience. At least you don't have to go in the store anymore!
The best strategy is to ignore him completely. Don't even look at the store as you pass by. This person has obviously no idea of what would bring you back to his store (cleanliness, efficiency, fresh products, friendliness). Pretend to be on your cell phone as you pass by. That usually connotes a complete lack of interest in your surroundings.
Ignore him. You told them one time why you were not coming there. Don't let dirty looks bother you.
How does one deal with an ex-wife who makes ludicrous accusations to keep you from seeing your child?
I have attempted to visit my 11 year old child several times this past year with no luck. She is in contempt of court and I have a lawyer and am taking her to court but not before she serves me with papers making accusations that I am basically a perverted drunk and I make my daughter uncomfortable (thats the clean version). I pay child support and I have a great relationship with my daughter when we are together, and I am in the medical profession. There are so many dead beat fathers out there that get to see their children all the time, why must I go through this BS when I do everything I can to be a good dad. How can I deal with such an evil person???How does one deal with an ex-wife who makes ludicrous accusations to keep you from seeing your child?
Start recording all your phone conversations and keep a diary of the dates and times you've tried to see your child. Look up 'Parent Alienation Sydrome' on the internet too. It's actually very common. She is no doubt brain washing your child too. Hopefully the courts will interview your child while your wife is NOT in the room. They will have court appointed child psychologists for that, who can determine if your ex is saying derogatory things about you to your child. Don't worry...they will either take the child from her and give her to you, or they will FORCE the Mom to allow you your visitation. They may even make Mom take supervised visitations.How does one deal with an ex-wife who makes ludicrous accusations to keep you from seeing your child?
She will tip her hand one day and all the lies she is telling will be known. Let the courts handle it for now, in the long run you will come out ahead. I know a few guys personally that have gone through the same thing and even though it was hard not to see their kids it has paid off today. One even got full custody of his daughter because the court ruled the mother was unfit in her behavior towards the father.
An eleven year old is old enough to speak for herself, and let's hope that she is not making ';ludicrous'; accusations like her mom. And it doesn't matter what profession you are in, that does not exempt you or anyone else from pedophilia or child molestation.
Anywhoooooo, how you deal with it is with a lawyer and a judge, I think you are doing the right thing in that area, but your comparisons to other people (deadbeat dads for egs) make me go ';ugh';.
You don't have to deal with the wife (the evil person) you have to deal with yourself and your daughter so that you can achieve whatever outcome your heart truly desires.
I feel really bad for you and your daughter. What he said before me is basically what you need to do. Its going to cost you a lot of money but you need to document EVERYTHING and take her to court. Im suprised she hasn't been arrested for being in contempt of court. One day your daughter will see right through her.. just be normal for your daughter and she will remember that.
I can only tell you that I'm so sorry. Your ex doesn't seem to understand some very basic fundamentals about having children - especially daughters. Daughters need their dads so much!
I am divorced with three daughters. My ex is a lawyer and didn't even want children, let alone do one single thing to raise them (they are all teenagers now). I would give absolutely anything for them to have a relationship with their father. He cannot be made to understand that he has devastated their lives by not being there for them - ever.
I'm telling you, I do not understand these vindictive women who try to keep the kids away from their ex - who absolutely needs to be a part of their lives. Very controlling!!!
You take the high road and let the courts and your lawyer do their jobs. Under no circumstances should you deal with her in person at this time, Make sure that you ask your lawyer if it would be possible to get a court appointed physiologist to interview your daughter and/or observe you and your daughter together,
Since these accusations are false, I would certainly pursue suing your ex for defamation of character and anything else you and your lawyer can think of, she is using a child to get back at you, so you have to be both ruthless and smart, make sure you do everything by the book and know this: every dirty tactic she is using against you now, will come back to her threefold, because your daughter knows the truth, and soon enough, she will be at an age where her mother will no longer be able to stand between you. Make sure, when you see your daughter, not to make the visits about your ex, Do not even discuss her mother, nor speak badly of her (difficult, I know), just focus on making the best of the time you have, bonding and forming the best relationship you can with your child. It will get better, hang in there, Good luck.
My ex was the same way. Or worse, she almost had my daughter convienced she was haveing repressed memory's about being molested by me. My daughter is 25 now and dosn't hesitate to tell anybody her mother is a pethitec piece of **** for all the trouble she caused us all.
Call her or email her and ask her what does she want from you in order to see your daughter. If you pay child support, and it is court ordered just ask her plain in simple if it's not a problem with the money, and if a judge granted it what exactly does she want. Talk in a low tone, and no matter how upset she gets I would not let that change my tone of voice. If she says all the stuff that you were only able to give us the clean version of then tell her you have a lawyer, and you are willing to go to court on the accusations she is alleging. Tell her if I have to face a judge because of your accusations in order to see my daughter then that's what I will do. Then say to her once that is all over, and those accusations prove to be false then what else will you have to do in order to see your daughter. If she says nothing then I would leave it alone because as long as you two go back in forth she is going to always make you out to be the bad person in front of your daughter. I would write your daughter a letter, and take it to her school, and have the front office give it to her ';not you'; but make sure you tell them who you are, and let her know on a child's level the discussion you had with her mother, and let her know that ';you'; are not the reason you can't see her. Once she takes that note home to her mother then her mother will have some questions to answer. Good luck.
the same way you would deal with an ex-husband doing the same thing .. you just deal with it.. stand your ground for the childs sake and dont do anything stupid to make it look like you're vengeful and hateful to the ex because in time the way they are acting to make you look bad will only backfire and make everyone see their true selves..
sounds like you are doing the right thing with your lawyer and such.. just don't give up for your daughters sake.. things will work out in time..
Ask the court to assign a GAL to report on your relationship with your child and the child's relationship with her mother. In this way you will have a neutral third party to present the findings to the court. The system is broken allowing such things to be taken as the truth because no judge wants to be on the 11:00 news stating that he/she didn't assign a restraining order if something did happen. There is no due process when it comes down to restraining orders.
Start recording all your phone conversations and keep a diary of the dates and times you've tried to see your child. Look up 'Parent Alienation Sydrome' on the internet too. It's actually very common. She is no doubt brain washing your child too. Hopefully the courts will interview your child while your wife is NOT in the room. They will have court appointed child psychologists for that, who can determine if your ex is saying derogatory things about you to your child. Don't worry...they will either take the child from her and give her to you, or they will FORCE the Mom to allow you your visitation. They may even make Mom take supervised visitations.How does one deal with an ex-wife who makes ludicrous accusations to keep you from seeing your child?
She will tip her hand one day and all the lies she is telling will be known. Let the courts handle it for now, in the long run you will come out ahead. I know a few guys personally that have gone through the same thing and even though it was hard not to see their kids it has paid off today. One even got full custody of his daughter because the court ruled the mother was unfit in her behavior towards the father.
An eleven year old is old enough to speak for herself, and let's hope that she is not making ';ludicrous'; accusations like her mom. And it doesn't matter what profession you are in, that does not exempt you or anyone else from pedophilia or child molestation.
Anywhoooooo, how you deal with it is with a lawyer and a judge, I think you are doing the right thing in that area, but your comparisons to other people (deadbeat dads for egs) make me go ';ugh';.
You don't have to deal with the wife (the evil person) you have to deal with yourself and your daughter so that you can achieve whatever outcome your heart truly desires.
I feel really bad for you and your daughter. What he said before me is basically what you need to do. Its going to cost you a lot of money but you need to document EVERYTHING and take her to court. Im suprised she hasn't been arrested for being in contempt of court. One day your daughter will see right through her.. just be normal for your daughter and she will remember that.
I can only tell you that I'm so sorry. Your ex doesn't seem to understand some very basic fundamentals about having children - especially daughters. Daughters need their dads so much!
I am divorced with three daughters. My ex is a lawyer and didn't even want children, let alone do one single thing to raise them (they are all teenagers now). I would give absolutely anything for them to have a relationship with their father. He cannot be made to understand that he has devastated their lives by not being there for them - ever.
I'm telling you, I do not understand these vindictive women who try to keep the kids away from their ex - who absolutely needs to be a part of their lives. Very controlling!!!
You take the high road and let the courts and your lawyer do their jobs. Under no circumstances should you deal with her in person at this time, Make sure that you ask your lawyer if it would be possible to get a court appointed physiologist to interview your daughter and/or observe you and your daughter together,
Since these accusations are false, I would certainly pursue suing your ex for defamation of character and anything else you and your lawyer can think of, she is using a child to get back at you, so you have to be both ruthless and smart, make sure you do everything by the book and know this: every dirty tactic she is using against you now, will come back to her threefold, because your daughter knows the truth, and soon enough, she will be at an age where her mother will no longer be able to stand between you. Make sure, when you see your daughter, not to make the visits about your ex, Do not even discuss her mother, nor speak badly of her (difficult, I know), just focus on making the best of the time you have, bonding and forming the best relationship you can with your child. It will get better, hang in there, Good luck.
My ex was the same way. Or worse, she almost had my daughter convienced she was haveing repressed memory's about being molested by me. My daughter is 25 now and dosn't hesitate to tell anybody her mother is a pethitec piece of **** for all the trouble she caused us all.
Call her or email her and ask her what does she want from you in order to see your daughter. If you pay child support, and it is court ordered just ask her plain in simple if it's not a problem with the money, and if a judge granted it what exactly does she want. Talk in a low tone, and no matter how upset she gets I would not let that change my tone of voice. If she says all the stuff that you were only able to give us the clean version of then tell her you have a lawyer, and you are willing to go to court on the accusations she is alleging. Tell her if I have to face a judge because of your accusations in order to see my daughter then that's what I will do. Then say to her once that is all over, and those accusations prove to be false then what else will you have to do in order to see your daughter. If she says nothing then I would leave it alone because as long as you two go back in forth she is going to always make you out to be the bad person in front of your daughter. I would write your daughter a letter, and take it to her school, and have the front office give it to her ';not you'; but make sure you tell them who you are, and let her know on a child's level the discussion you had with her mother, and let her know that ';you'; are not the reason you can't see her. Once she takes that note home to her mother then her mother will have some questions to answer. Good luck.
the same way you would deal with an ex-husband doing the same thing .. you just deal with it.. stand your ground for the childs sake and dont do anything stupid to make it look like you're vengeful and hateful to the ex because in time the way they are acting to make you look bad will only backfire and make everyone see their true selves..
sounds like you are doing the right thing with your lawyer and such.. just don't give up for your daughters sake.. things will work out in time..
Ask the court to assign a GAL to report on your relationship with your child and the child's relationship with her mother. In this way you will have a neutral third party to present the findings to the court. The system is broken allowing such things to be taken as the truth because no judge wants to be on the 11:00 news stating that he/she didn't assign a restraining order if something did happen. There is no due process when it comes down to restraining orders.
How to deal with an ex that I loved but now I HATE (because she is with someone else) but agreed to talk to?
I hate her for various reasons...she hurt me a lot.
My love is...i don't know...I know I think about her alot.
She asked me to talk and I agreed...what to tell her? How to deal with her?
I want her to change...should I say that to her?How to deal with an ex that I loved but now I HATE (because she is with someone else) but agreed to talk to?
if you hate her, then why are you talking to her? that just doesn't make since.How to deal with an ex that I loved but now I HATE (because she is with someone else) but agreed to talk to?
I suggest you be completely honest when you tell her anything personal. Since you agreed to talk to her, does that mean you still feel something? Does she know whether or not she hurt you? If she hurt you really badly, I don't think you should talk to her...
My love is...i don't know...I know I think about her alot.
She asked me to talk and I agreed...what to tell her? How to deal with her?
I want her to change...should I say that to her?How to deal with an ex that I loved but now I HATE (because she is with someone else) but agreed to talk to?
if you hate her, then why are you talking to her? that just doesn't make since.How to deal with an ex that I loved but now I HATE (because she is with someone else) but agreed to talk to?
I suggest you be completely honest when you tell her anything personal. Since you agreed to talk to her, does that mean you still feel something? Does she know whether or not she hurt you? If she hurt you really badly, I don't think you should talk to her...
What are some of the emotions you felt and how did/do you deal with your ex introducing your children to a new?
partner?What are some of the emotions you felt and how did/do you deal with your ex introducing your children to a new?
I don't know about new emotions, but a great mixture of lots of emotions that are/were very intense and painful......almost a replay of the height of the emotions leading to divorce......lots of which are totally illogical fears and worries, a burning need to protect your child/ren because of what their father put you through, which is not how you once saw him when married especially if like I was married for a very long time and had a blissfully happy marriage and had no idea it was coming ( leaving for work as normal and getting a solicitors letter 20 mins later drop on the mat.....and he never came home again...so total shock)
However realising the hate is targeted towards me, so 'catch yourself on' to stop and make it right for the child/ren.........only then finding once they left home and were considered adults he bought them cars, paid for college fees ( even though he never had money or paid child support leaving me to struggle and hide it from them) to find he started lying to them, telling them I had, had many affairs ( never) that I wanted them fostered out at one time, which he had to fight to stop ( never) and they turn their back on me, even though both of them saw themselves things he did at the time.....now to find my daughter calls her mum will not contact me, nor allow me to see her children ( helped and assisted by her husband who never knew me but is always willing to slander me to anyone he meets).......they are adults, so they have to make their own decisions with the information they have, it hurts me, however I can't change how and what they do and they have to live with it, I get on with my life, write a diary everyday, opened bank accounts for my grandchildren ( I trace family history so I can find the information I need) including my daughters legal change of name, taking out my name and replacing it with Mrs number 2..........one day.............What are some of the emotions you felt and how did/do you deal with your ex introducing your children to a new?
Ya know....I suppose I would go through all the normal emotions and feelings just as anyone else, but the fact of the matter is: IS that life is life And nuclear families are a part of life. I think it is about time we ALL just get used to it already and quit being in denial about it. I would keep my feelings to myself no matter HOW young or how many children are involved. I was brought up being ';in the dark'; about many things (I suppose we all were) that was just the way it was...it was the ';times';, and now we learn from the mistakes that were made or @least we are supposed to. I think it is a big mistake to keep children in the dark. Live and let live. They know more then we think. And all we adults do s0oo many times is just confuse them about important life issues. The fact of the matter is: nuclear families exist and thrive. admit it, face it, deal w/it...and move on. Children adapt and deal w/so much more then we do at times and they are so much better at it. We adults do not give enough credit to children. Teach them HOW to deal with things so that CAN deal with things, when they are on thier own.
Sorry I went off on you like that...I guess it is just a sore spot I need to deal with...lol
CRAZY emotions ! that was a hard pill for me to swallow at first ! but as the time went on it just grow on me,I didn't like it but there was nothing I could do about it ! All I could do was pay c/s and let by gones be by gones,I really didn't want to see and hear all the drama that came with it !
you just hav to get on wi th it ,tell ur x nothing to do with him ,and just sit kids down and tell them meet my new boyfriend ? :) :)
I don't know about new emotions, but a great mixture of lots of emotions that are/were very intense and painful......almost a replay of the height of the emotions leading to divorce......lots of which are totally illogical fears and worries, a burning need to protect your child/ren because of what their father put you through, which is not how you once saw him when married especially if like I was married for a very long time and had a blissfully happy marriage and had no idea it was coming ( leaving for work as normal and getting a solicitors letter 20 mins later drop on the mat.....and he never came home again...so total shock)
However realising the hate is targeted towards me, so 'catch yourself on' to stop and make it right for the child/ren.........only then finding once they left home and were considered adults he bought them cars, paid for college fees ( even though he never had money or paid child support leaving me to struggle and hide it from them) to find he started lying to them, telling them I had, had many affairs ( never) that I wanted them fostered out at one time, which he had to fight to stop ( never) and they turn their back on me, even though both of them saw themselves things he did at the time.....now to find my daughter calls her mum will not contact me, nor allow me to see her children ( helped and assisted by her husband who never knew me but is always willing to slander me to anyone he meets).......they are adults, so they have to make their own decisions with the information they have, it hurts me, however I can't change how and what they do and they have to live with it, I get on with my life, write a diary everyday, opened bank accounts for my grandchildren ( I trace family history so I can find the information I need) including my daughters legal change of name, taking out my name and replacing it with Mrs number 2..........one day.............What are some of the emotions you felt and how did/do you deal with your ex introducing your children to a new?
Ya know....I suppose I would go through all the normal emotions and feelings just as anyone else, but the fact of the matter is: IS that life is life And nuclear families are a part of life. I think it is about time we ALL just get used to it already and quit being in denial about it. I would keep my feelings to myself no matter HOW young or how many children are involved. I was brought up being ';in the dark'; about many things (I suppose we all were) that was just the way it was...it was the ';times';, and now we learn from the mistakes that were made or @least we are supposed to. I think it is a big mistake to keep children in the dark. Live and let live. They know more then we think. And all we adults do s0oo many times is just confuse them about important life issues. The fact of the matter is: nuclear families exist and thrive. admit it, face it, deal w/it...and move on. Children adapt and deal w/so much more then we do at times and they are so much better at it. We adults do not give enough credit to children. Teach them HOW to deal with things so that CAN deal with things, when they are on thier own.
Sorry I went off on you like that...I guess it is just a sore spot I need to deal with...lol
CRAZY emotions ! that was a hard pill for me to swallow at first ! but as the time went on it just grow on me,I didn't like it but there was nothing I could do about it ! All I could do was pay c/s and let by gones be by gones,I really didn't want to see and hear all the drama that came with it !
you just hav to get on wi th it ,tell ur x nothing to do with him ,and just sit kids down and tell them meet my new boyfriend ? :) :)
How do I deal with my ex-roommate at work?
I am 28 and I lived with a girl I work with in my office. We were good friends until her boyfriend moved in too. I did not enjoy living with her, but kept things civil because I lived and worked with her. Now that I moved out (this past weekend), she is accusing me of taking things that belonged to her, which is completely untrue. In fact, I left some of my kitchen utensils and paid her extra rent so that she would have no reason to complain. Now she is giving me an attitude at work and I have a feeling she is talking negatively about me to coworkers. It is very uncomfortable and I don't know how to deal with it, especially since I am very non-confrontational.How do I deal with my ex-roommate at work?
It sounds like it's a good situation to be confrontational. I would talk to her privately to clear the air and come to some sort of solution. I wouldn't try being friends or anything but agree to disagree. Time to stand up for yourself. Scary at frist but it's very satisfying once it's done. I know from experience.How do I deal with my ex-roommate at work?
in a single word i can say that believe yourself.
if she is taking things negetively let it be dont try to give explanations everytime but stay away from these negative thoughts and be proffessional at your work place . whereever she is wrong about you tell her directly in soft voice .
lastly i can say that if you have faith in yourself you can do anything
Let me just say that she is such a *****!!!! If she is saying that you took her stuff just don't be scared go up to her and ask what did I take? Confrontation is the only solution in these situations.
It sounds like it's a good situation to be confrontational. I would talk to her privately to clear the air and come to some sort of solution. I wouldn't try being friends or anything but agree to disagree. Time to stand up for yourself. Scary at frist but it's very satisfying once it's done. I know from experience.How do I deal with my ex-roommate at work?
in a single word i can say that believe yourself.
if she is taking things negetively let it be dont try to give explanations everytime but stay away from these negative thoughts and be proffessional at your work place . whereever she is wrong about you tell her directly in soft voice .
lastly i can say that if you have faith in yourself you can do anything
Let me just say that she is such a *****!!!! If she is saying that you took her stuff just don't be scared go up to her and ask what did I take? Confrontation is the only solution in these situations.
How do I deal with my ex?
My ex left me after spending 10.5 yrs with each other, she left in April of last year and just had a baby early Feb! It's not my baby, result of a 1 night stand, she came to me for support! is it wrong for me to expect that we will get back together? she gave the baby up for adoption!How do I deal with my ex?
u don't really have to deal with someone who cheated on u, and left u. u can move on u know. everyone has their own realities, and wants in life, but once u get betrayed, its kind of hard to go back to that person again. personally i would not let a person who did this to me back into my life, because it hurts to know your second to someone else and that they chose someone else over u. its not up to u to help her unless this is what u want to do.How do I deal with my ex?
she knowes that u will be there for her because u always have it doesnt always mean you have to get back together, its just natural and be there for her, she realizes wat she needed in you now show her wat she had left. and convince her to get her baby back that was a selfish decision in my opinion. she will most likely regret that decision
Do not! I repeat DO NOT deal with her problems. She left you! You should try to move on by telling her she has to work it out with her one night stand partner or her family. 10.5 years..wow that is really long to put up with that. I wish you the best.
You need to do some soul searching now. Do you think you can live with the knowledge of what she did? Do you think that the reason she cheated is gone? Do you have kids,and will they respect the decision you make? When you do make the decision sit your kids down and tell them it.Don't let them into the decision making because if it does not work the way they hoped they will feel bad.I would get counseling.
Do you have children with her? If you have children with her, and if you can stomach it or if you are willing to try and forgive her and move on, let her come back and see how it goes.
If you have no children with her, tell her where she can stick it and walk away.
And keep walking.
It's O.K. as long as you still love her
It is up to you.
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u don't really have to deal with someone who cheated on u, and left u. u can move on u know. everyone has their own realities, and wants in life, but once u get betrayed, its kind of hard to go back to that person again. personally i would not let a person who did this to me back into my life, because it hurts to know your second to someone else and that they chose someone else over u. its not up to u to help her unless this is what u want to do.How do I deal with my ex?
she knowes that u will be there for her because u always have it doesnt always mean you have to get back together, its just natural and be there for her, she realizes wat she needed in you now show her wat she had left. and convince her to get her baby back that was a selfish decision in my opinion. she will most likely regret that decision
Do not! I repeat DO NOT deal with her problems. She left you! You should try to move on by telling her she has to work it out with her one night stand partner or her family. 10.5 years..wow that is really long to put up with that. I wish you the best.
You need to do some soul searching now. Do you think you can live with the knowledge of what she did? Do you think that the reason she cheated is gone? Do you have kids,and will they respect the decision you make? When you do make the decision sit your kids down and tell them it.Don't let them into the decision making because if it does not work the way they hoped they will feel bad.I would get counseling.
Do you have children with her? If you have children with her, and if you can stomach it or if you are willing to try and forgive her and move on, let her come back and see how it goes.
If you have no children with her, tell her where she can stick it and walk away.
And keep walking.
It's O.K. as long as you still love her
It is up to you.
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How do you deal with your husbands ex when there's kids involved
i have beeen with my hubby for 2 years now and is ex has three kids from him we have them half of the time and she has them the other half but when she wants some time to her self she just drops them off weather its our time or not now this wouldn't bother me so much but we have a 2 year old and my husbands works and i am the one who has to take care of all of them so how do i tell the ex to deal with her own problems and when its her turn not to involve us ??How do you deal with your husbands ex when there's kids involved
i would tell your husband to have a frank discussion with her about it (armed with the custody agreement). it's outrageous that she wants to drop them off at your doorstep whenever it's convenient for her. i can understand if it was once in a while in an emergency, but her behavior is rude. you know what though? she does it because your husband allows it! you think that his ex wouldn't raise holy hell if you did the same thing to her? watch what would happen. she is being rude, inconsiderate, and neglectful.
problem here is...if you say anything to her, it could start world war 3. while you are the one being saddled with the kids, i would think twice before blowing up on her and starting a conflict. your husband should be handling this, not you. if he doesn't want to handle it...get some marital counseling, as he is not meeting your needs, or validating your concerns.How do you deal with your husbands ex when there's kids involved
I am a mother of three myself and I have full custody of mine I only get every other weekend off ...So first of all be thinkful you do get a break... Also stop and think about it you knew he fathered three children before he became your husband.Dont act like this bothers you infront of her because it could be used against him in court if you to decide to go about custody issues because this is children where talking about not mother.Do you love them enough to have them all.? All the time? Dont worry about it spend time together as a family show the kids you care enough not to fight mom over them. Tell them you wont them all the time and love them...Show mom you care.
I agree with infinite crisis. If you're the one taking care of them then you need her to stick to the schedule or get your approval in advance. An emergency, I would understand, but just when she feels like it? No. That's being horribly disrespectful. There's a lot of things you can do with just one child that you can't do with more than one and you need to be able to plan your day. That would drive me nuts. I agree with going through your husband on this. And what in the world would she need morethan half the week off for. Man, there's a lot of stuff you can get done with half a week of no kids. Why would she not want to see them the whole time she's allotted?
this is a touchy situation but the ex needs to only bring the kids over when the father is home no other time. She needs to be told when she comes over that the father is not home right now and she can bring them over when he is here. and just keep saying that when she tries to drop them off. Its a little sad for the kids to be in the middle of this and see and hear this but I would turn her away and make sure she calls before she plans unexpected drop offs. she is using you guys.
If you don't like taking care of kids...than why are you involved with a man who has kids. And why do you have one of your own? You sound more made at your husband's drama and it being put on your instead of the kids or the ex.
Yell at your husband.. Its his problem not yours or the ex's..His kids!!!
You sit down with your husband and set the ground rules for him....she has to call to make sure you are available, and not at last minute either, Just because you are her ex's wife doesn't mean she has a built in babysitter whenever she wants....you must INSIST on consideration from both...no phone call %26amp; you don't answer the door.........okay? And then HE tells her.....and sitck to it.
that's your husbands job you shouldn't have to deal at all like you said you are the caretaker he needs to step up. don't get yourself in a bad way with the ex and kids MAKE him deal with it now.
If you were interested, you could use her dropping them off like that in court to get full custody. Otherwise, you have to try to get along. For the sake of the kids alone. Plus I would talk to your husband %26amp; have him talk to her. Coming from you, she may get defensive.
The kids are involve so they are your husbands kids too! Not saying she is right for doing this but they do have kids together and you knew he had 3 kids before you married him. So, talk to there mother and let her know this.
the father should ask the court for a court order mediation..for making a 'parenting plan' between parties, that way she cannot drop them off at her own will..they can settle the details of visitation times..a mediator will work with them..
i would simply explain to her that you have plans, or whatever. she needs to make arrangements if it isnt your turn to have them. she sounds a bit stupid for doing that!
im sorry but you dont say anything to her you must speak to your husband tell him how this affects you and how is HE going to deal with this he must tell her HE
You tell your husband to tell her. Believe me it isn't worth the hassle you'll get from her! Been there done that.
My Dear you have made a wrong choice in your life. But at this stage it is useless to say this. Now you shall be not only patiance but also diplomatic. If you shall use any harsh language then you shall invite more troubles and your family life be more disturbed. First make it sure that is it your ego hurt when the children drop in or you get some other problem. If possible try to adjust in the atmosphere as your son too get a company of them and the growth of child is better in the company of children.If you are in no way ready to adjust then try to take your husband in your favour. Let him know your point with supporting arrguments but with patience and love. In light atmosphere you can even communicate the difficulties to your hubby's ex, but be clever that she may appreciate your point and do not misunderstood that you wanted to get rid off her children. A number of times we can't say a blind that you are ANDHA but use word SOURDAS. In a situation like your you may have to adjust more otherwise it is possible that your child may be forced to face same position as your hubby's ex wife's childern are facing today.
i would tell your husband to have a frank discussion with her about it (armed with the custody agreement). it's outrageous that she wants to drop them off at your doorstep whenever it's convenient for her. i can understand if it was once in a while in an emergency, but her behavior is rude. you know what though? she does it because your husband allows it! you think that his ex wouldn't raise holy hell if you did the same thing to her? watch what would happen. she is being rude, inconsiderate, and neglectful.
problem here is...if you say anything to her, it could start world war 3. while you are the one being saddled with the kids, i would think twice before blowing up on her and starting a conflict. your husband should be handling this, not you. if he doesn't want to handle it...get some marital counseling, as he is not meeting your needs, or validating your concerns.How do you deal with your husbands ex when there's kids involved
I am a mother of three myself and I have full custody of mine I only get every other weekend off ...So first of all be thinkful you do get a break... Also stop and think about it you knew he fathered three children before he became your husband.Dont act like this bothers you infront of her because it could be used against him in court if you to decide to go about custody issues because this is children where talking about not mother.Do you love them enough to have them all.? All the time? Dont worry about it spend time together as a family show the kids you care enough not to fight mom over them. Tell them you wont them all the time and love them...Show mom you care.
I agree with infinite crisis. If you're the one taking care of them then you need her to stick to the schedule or get your approval in advance. An emergency, I would understand, but just when she feels like it? No. That's being horribly disrespectful. There's a lot of things you can do with just one child that you can't do with more than one and you need to be able to plan your day. That would drive me nuts. I agree with going through your husband on this. And what in the world would she need morethan half the week off for. Man, there's a lot of stuff you can get done with half a week of no kids. Why would she not want to see them the whole time she's allotted?
this is a touchy situation but the ex needs to only bring the kids over when the father is home no other time. She needs to be told when she comes over that the father is not home right now and she can bring them over when he is here. and just keep saying that when she tries to drop them off. Its a little sad for the kids to be in the middle of this and see and hear this but I would turn her away and make sure she calls before she plans unexpected drop offs. she is using you guys.
If you don't like taking care of kids...than why are you involved with a man who has kids. And why do you have one of your own? You sound more made at your husband's drama and it being put on your instead of the kids or the ex.
Yell at your husband.. Its his problem not yours or the ex's..His kids!!!
You sit down with your husband and set the ground rules for him....she has to call to make sure you are available, and not at last minute either, Just because you are her ex's wife doesn't mean she has a built in babysitter whenever she wants....you must INSIST on consideration from both...no phone call %26amp; you don't answer the door.........okay? And then HE tells her.....and sitck to it.
that's your husbands job you shouldn't have to deal at all like you said you are the caretaker he needs to step up. don't get yourself in a bad way with the ex and kids MAKE him deal with it now.
If you were interested, you could use her dropping them off like that in court to get full custody. Otherwise, you have to try to get along. For the sake of the kids alone. Plus I would talk to your husband %26amp; have him talk to her. Coming from you, she may get defensive.
The kids are involve so they are your husbands kids too! Not saying she is right for doing this but they do have kids together and you knew he had 3 kids before you married him. So, talk to there mother and let her know this.
the father should ask the court for a court order mediation..for making a 'parenting plan' between parties, that way she cannot drop them off at her own will..they can settle the details of visitation times..a mediator will work with them..
i would simply explain to her that you have plans, or whatever. she needs to make arrangements if it isnt your turn to have them. she sounds a bit stupid for doing that!
im sorry but you dont say anything to her you must speak to your husband tell him how this affects you and how is HE going to deal with this he must tell her HE
You tell your husband to tell her. Believe me it isn't worth the hassle you'll get from her! Been there done that.
My Dear you have made a wrong choice in your life. But at this stage it is useless to say this. Now you shall be not only patiance but also diplomatic. If you shall use any harsh language then you shall invite more troubles and your family life be more disturbed. First make it sure that is it your ego hurt when the children drop in or you get some other problem. If possible try to adjust in the atmosphere as your son too get a company of them and the growth of child is better in the company of children.If you are in no way ready to adjust then try to take your husband in your favour. Let him know your point with supporting arrguments but with patience and love. In light atmosphere you can even communicate the difficulties to your hubby's ex, but be clever that she may appreciate your point and do not misunderstood that you wanted to get rid off her children. A number of times we can't say a blind that you are ANDHA but use word SOURDAS. In a situation like your you may have to adjust more otherwise it is possible that your child may be forced to face same position as your hubby's ex wife's childern are facing today.
Guys: Whats the best way to deal with ex?
My boyfriend of 2 years recently broke up with me. I was really upset...did anything and everything for him and he made me feel worthless. I'm good looking, I have a great job, and I'm almost done with my degree. He on the other hand has no job, fails out of his classes, and is so negative. After the break up he kept in contact through texts and wants to hang out saying he still loves me and wants me in his life he just needs to be on his own for now. He says he's not ruling out the future. (I believe him I mean we are only 21 and I am his first gf and our relationship was a lot of fighting) I want to know the best way to make him realize how much of an idiot he is for breaking up with me. (I don't want to mess around with other guys so don't say that).Guys: Whats the best way to deal with ex?
the sad truth to this is hes doing what most 21 yr old guys do in this situation. He does love you but hes at that weird point in a relationship where things start to get pretty serious and guys geek out. Any girl thats been in this situation will tell you he broke up with you to see what else is out there so HE can mess around. he keeps you around with the excuse that he needs 'space'; so you dont mess around cuz you think there is a chance of being with him. youll end up hurt in the end if you play along. the only way to make him feel like an idiot is not to play along with this, A good guy will realize hes been a dick and make things better, and if ur guy doesnt, you dont want him anyway.
good luckGuys: Whats the best way to deal with ex?
He is Negative, fails classes, what future are you going to have?
I'll tell you, he will put you down everyday and you will end up taking care of him.
Your only 21 he will not be the first or last looser you date.
Why would you want that for yourself, when you seem smart enough to do better.
Start out hanging out with other guys while he's around and just make himm think that you're the best he's ever gonna get. basically you just want to make sure he knows that you're over him, even if you're not. if you were as close as you say it will hit him how much he misses you and how stupid he was to lose you.
He is a pervert loosing a nice girl like you. Ask him to do something which he can't (getting my point) this will be the condition for your relation start from again. Ask him to get a job or start some activity study or anything else. Ask him to prove that he really like you.. Don't make him to make a Taj Mahal
That wouldn't have been the right future anyways. It wouldn't turn out well, you could tell him and explain it? I just don't think he is worth the trouble, sorry =(
sound like he is your first boyfriend as well. young lady its seem to me that you have a few issues that you have to come face to face yourself.
can you really explain what you see in him after the way he treated you for the last two years? why be in a relationship that you fight a lot? is this your ideal of companion in a relationship? If an individual doesn't want to work, trying not to better their self, have a negative out look on life, tell him how can this individual is worth being with? soon or later his attitude will rub off on you and then its down hill from there.
I would said its best for the two of you broke up and you should move on with your life. stop texting him, don't let his issues hinder you because he is being a jerk. if you stay or wait for him then you become the problem and not him.
please answer this for me, why help him to bring you down when you spend your time going to school and make something better for yourself.
my opinion is for you to move on and find someone who will treat you whole lot better and less fighting.
the sad truth to this is hes doing what most 21 yr old guys do in this situation. He does love you but hes at that weird point in a relationship where things start to get pretty serious and guys geek out. Any girl thats been in this situation will tell you he broke up with you to see what else is out there so HE can mess around. he keeps you around with the excuse that he needs 'space'; so you dont mess around cuz you think there is a chance of being with him. youll end up hurt in the end if you play along. the only way to make him feel like an idiot is not to play along with this, A good guy will realize hes been a dick and make things better, and if ur guy doesnt, you dont want him anyway.
good luckGuys: Whats the best way to deal with ex?
He is Negative, fails classes, what future are you going to have?
I'll tell you, he will put you down everyday and you will end up taking care of him.
Your only 21 he will not be the first or last looser you date.
Why would you want that for yourself, when you seem smart enough to do better.
Start out hanging out with other guys while he's around and just make himm think that you're the best he's ever gonna get. basically you just want to make sure he knows that you're over him, even if you're not. if you were as close as you say it will hit him how much he misses you and how stupid he was to lose you.
He is a pervert loosing a nice girl like you. Ask him to do something which he can't (getting my point) this will be the condition for your relation start from again. Ask him to get a job or start some activity study or anything else. Ask him to prove that he really like you.. Don't make him to make a Taj Mahal
That wouldn't have been the right future anyways. It wouldn't turn out well, you could tell him and explain it? I just don't think he is worth the trouble, sorry =(
sound like he is your first boyfriend as well. young lady its seem to me that you have a few issues that you have to come face to face yourself.
can you really explain what you see in him after the way he treated you for the last two years? why be in a relationship that you fight a lot? is this your ideal of companion in a relationship? If an individual doesn't want to work, trying not to better their self, have a negative out look on life, tell him how can this individual is worth being with? soon or later his attitude will rub off on you and then its down hill from there.
I would said its best for the two of you broke up and you should move on with your life. stop texting him, don't let his issues hinder you because he is being a jerk. if you stay or wait for him then you become the problem and not him.
please answer this for me, why help him to bring you down when you spend your time going to school and make something better for yourself.
my opinion is for you to move on and find someone who will treat you whole lot better and less fighting.
DESPERATE!! How can I deal with ex doing all the things to his new gf that he never did for me?
I was a struggling student, he was already making a good living and not only didn't help me at all but I had to always be there for him, help him with everything and was always behind on my studies because of HIM and HIS work and needs to the point I ended up dropping out of grad school. Now he is dating a girl he is putting through med school that I just found out and I seriously just want to kill myself and regret putting him first and am angry he never appreciated me enough to put me first like he is to this girl. PLEASE how can I get over these angry and maybe a little jealous too feelings???????????????????????DESPERATE!! How can I deal with ex doing all the things to his new gf that he never did for me?
Ofcourse your jeolous doll...you have every right to be.
What a prick right!!
Well....half right.
He麓s not yours anymore and what he does in his new relationship unfortunantley isn麓t any of your busy..sorry..bu true.
look the only one getting hurt over this is you.
Cuz I guarantee he麓s having the time of his life with his accomplished career and new girl.
I had a girl who brought me up from a raging alcoholic with a serious cocaine addiction to a homewoning proffessional with 2 years of college under my belt. You know what...she麓s a saint and i have her up there with the virgin mary and my mother...but se la vi we broke up eventually...I felt like a total jerk after all that because she helped become a HUMAN BEING rather than a piece of garbage but had I stayed with her for gratefulness it would been a lie.
Now which do you prefer... a lie...or the truth even though it hurts. thankfully shes a understanding girl with a kind heart. But not a day goes by where I don麓t thank her and at the very least send her a box of chocolates for her B-day (against her husbands wishes).
Seems like your X needs a lesson in gratitude no doubt...you could tell him sure and ruin his relationship..your free to do all that..in fact in many ways you have the right.
But how would that help you?..think hard...
Don麓t be jeolous..you fell for a prick it happens to the best girls...in fact most good girls are with pricks in my experience.
But you know what after that they usually find the right one...don麓t ask me how its a pehenomena...but its true almost 100% of the time(look at my EX)
Just avoid the pricks....and please please...I CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH.
Don麓t take it out on the next guy..this is the sure fire way to end up alone. Remember the prick is the EX...the new guy is totally new and deserves the same chance as the prick.
Don麓t worry about the prick....guess what baby karma is real and everybody gets theres.
Cheer up...stay focused...don麓t be selfish but try and put yourself first when possible.
Thats all I can say...be strong...remember what doesn麓t kill us..........(thats right) now say it over and over.DESPERATE!! How can I deal with ex doing all the things to his new gf that he never did for me?
Keep yourself busy. If you are doing things with friends, dating, pursuing hobbies, working, etc....you don't have much time to dwell on what an ex did for you. You learned a valuable lesson that will serve you well in the future. Next time, you won't tolerate a guy that demands too much of you while giving little of himself.
this won't last soon enough he will be treating her the way he treated you....he is obv only doing it to get you annoyed and jealous....make sure you have no contact so you can't hear any stories of what he is doing next to try and get you jealous,,,its totally pathetic! as soon as he realises that you don't even hear about his pathetic games he will stop helping this other girl out and and it will be her on here asking this same question! move on he sounds like a total loser.
Wow, that's alot to go through ! Seriously though you need to wake up get over this jerk. I would definitely tell him how i feel though. Get your issues out the way. It doesn't matter if you talk to him in person or write him a letter, you just need to get your anger out in the open.Hes really done some damage and you need to let him know this but , open your eyes and realize what a *** he is . Your better then that.
You know what, that's how a lot of guys are. Sorry to say, but maybe he really loves this girl. Maybe he learned from you and rectified his mistakes towards her. The easiest way to move on is to completely lose contact with him. Erase him from your Myspace or Facebook, and erase his number. It will get better. The less you know about his life, the less you will feel jealous.
Don't worry about it. It's not your problem anyways. That guy was a jerk and you need to get a good paying job so I would try to take out a loan and work at the same time. Every human being needs to go to school and get an education in my view. You'll make it through and when you do find the right guy I'm positive that he will help you out.
Wow I'm so sorry to hear that and that really sucks. Well, try to take all that energy and get back into Grad school and finish your master or whatever it is. Good luck. =] Don't lose sleep or cry over a man.
You sound like a very sweet women who got tied up with a self centered jerk. Pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and move on. Write it off as a learning experience. There are guys going nuts to find a goal oriented unselfish women like yourself. Get out there and show yourself off!
Good luck!
who cares what he does for her he shouldnt be your concern anymore. work on going back to school and putting yourself first now dont worry about them. being angry and thinking back will never get you forward the best revenge is doing it all on your own.
Well, you should always put yourself first.. and ive been in this same situation. Guys only really only try to make there ex gfs jealous. So, get out and do things to get your mind off from him. You were to go fro him anyway (:
Hope i helped..
grad school? so ur no dummy... realize that someone like you shouldnt have a douchebag like that in their lives... go back to school... youll find another guy. Also, put yourself first always!!!!! dont ruin your life to fix someone elses.... unless your talking about your own children..then you come second.
You just need to get over him girl, if he didn't do good things for you while you were together, he just wasn't worth your time. Just get him out of your head and find a new man
Dont u think hes doing all that to the other girl just to make
you jealous? Sometimes that does happen.
YOU SHUD JUST like move on and pretend
to not care for him anymore.
the more U think about the things he does for the new gf,the more he thniks that he`s important for u.mind ur job,het him do whatever he wants to.let`s think that he hasn`t have this CHANCE to put you first!
oh just go back to school or fight them or try to get him back by spicing urself up and he';ll back down off of her probably
Get over him. He evidentally wasn't worth your time and will probably do the samething thing to her when the new wears off. You'll see, Just give it time.
It's life honey. I think we as women always wonder what we could have done different. Some people come in your life for a season and he must have been one of those.
Honey it had nothing to do with you. Just let go and be happy youre free to be with someone who can love and appreciate you when you find him :)
Good Luck.
um...I'm available.
Just know he won't keep it up forever, think, you get to go find a great new guy
he's doing that just to make you jealous.
Find a new boyfriend.
learn from your mistake and move on!
and DONT find a new guy asap. thats dumb
punch him in the face. youll feel alot better
Hey there,
Everyone has regrets..it's the worst I know. I regretted getting taken advantage of by my ex, and then she broke up with me. Damnnn, I felt screwed over. Listen, there's people that linger on negative things that happen in their past, and people that forget about it and learn lessons for the future. Only the people that learn the lessons ever grow and lead a happy, successful life. You need to be one of those people. I know it's harder than it sounds, but you have to forget about this dude. Who gives a crap what he's doing with this other girl. Focus on your own life, that will make you so much happier in the long run. Guaranteed.
I suggest reading ';The Greatness Guide'; by Robin Sharma, it's a brilliant book (with about 80x2 page chapters) that will completely change your perspective and allow you to focus on yourself.
Oh, and it's a good idea to cut everything about this dude out of your life. I promise I only became happy when i deleted her from facebook and msn, and focus on my own life and what I'm doing to prosper and become a happy person. You can escape all these negative thoughts, the angry and jealous feelings..just focus on your own life.
ummm... jealouse much!!!!??? no its ok i dont blame u if your jealouse even if its bad its not really ur fault (well kinda cuz u gave into him) but why dont you kick him in the balls it would make you feel a lot better thats if ur REALLLY desperate but i suggest u dont how does he act around her!? how does she act around him!!?? its best to kno these details becuz if they look real then he might really like her!!! but if they look fake like for example shes being tooo flirty and so is he and they take it overboard than he migh be trying to make you jealous as in the mean time maybe the girl is too cuz she wants him hers!!! but it all depends how they act around eachother!!! if it looks pretty much real (AND BE HONEST WITH URSELF) then ignore it:) but if it really looks like ther doin it on purpose then u really need to punch them both!!!
Just ignore them. You him are done you can't change the past. Find your self someone new
How do you know all of this? if he is telling you this then its all a lie... people don't go around telling there ex's this.. he is an idiot....he is a needy insecure man... and i hope you learned your lesson.. don;t EVER put a man before your self.... they will do nothing but take advantage...... I assure you its all Bull$hit!... he is insecure and wants to make him self feel better about him self by making you feel bad.... and your letting him! STOP!
Change your Number and Emails..... That's the best way to say F*ck You!
He will be the one crying!
Karma Always Comes Around sooner or later.... and it's always so sweet!
I have the opposite although same situation. My boyfriend treated his last girlfriend like a queen, buying her very expensive presents...bracelets, jewelry, sending a dozen roses, clothing and spendy cruises and also a wedding band. She broke up with him. We as a couple eat out a lot. He has helped me in other ways around my house, but nothing like the lavish attention he gave her. He said she was a beautiful beautiful girl. He comes up short of calling me pretty, but does call me cute. He calls me her name constantly. It's been 8 mns of dating. He denies she was his fiance although I know different. It hurts, I know. I came to the conclusion that if you are beautiful that is how men will treat you, but if you are only cute you get second rate attention. Yes, and I am jealous. I think he would go back to her in a heartbeat. You have every right to be angry. You were used so go with the anger and get it out. Let it be a lesson learned and move on. There are plenty of decent men and I mean MEN out there, so don't let this stop you in any way. In fact, I have learned a lot from your question. I am not alone. Good luck to you.
I agree that he's likely doing it specifically to make you jealous. Don't say a word about it to him, or let him catch wind of your feelings because he doesn't even deserve the satisfaction.
He's obviously a womanizing piece of garbage who only cares about his own wants, and that's why he took advantage of your grace and dedication and didn't reciprocate your effort back into the relationship the two of you shared.
It's clear you still carry feelings for him, and that really is a shame. It sounds like you have a lot to offer and I find it rather depressing that good women like you are so often left vastly unappreciated. Try to remind yourself that the failure of your relationship with this man had nothing to do with your own shortcomings, and that it basically boiled down to the failure of a single sociopath to return the respect and love someone else gave to him. That's not your fault, and the sooner you can truly believe that the better off you will be.
It's never too late to go back to college, by the way. Learning from your mistakes is what gives mistakes value. To let this one defeat you only makes two mistakes out of one.
Good luck.
Ofcourse your jeolous doll...you have every right to be.
What a prick right!!
Well....half right.
He麓s not yours anymore and what he does in his new relationship unfortunantley isn麓t any of your busy..sorry..bu true.
look the only one getting hurt over this is you.
Cuz I guarantee he麓s having the time of his life with his accomplished career and new girl.
I had a girl who brought me up from a raging alcoholic with a serious cocaine addiction to a homewoning proffessional with 2 years of college under my belt. You know what...she麓s a saint and i have her up there with the virgin mary and my mother...but se la vi we broke up eventually...I felt like a total jerk after all that because she helped become a HUMAN BEING rather than a piece of garbage but had I stayed with her for gratefulness it would been a lie.
Now which do you prefer... a lie...or the truth even though it hurts. thankfully shes a understanding girl with a kind heart. But not a day goes by where I don麓t thank her and at the very least send her a box of chocolates for her B-day (against her husbands wishes).
Seems like your X needs a lesson in gratitude no doubt...you could tell him sure and ruin his relationship..your free to do all that..in fact in many ways you have the right.
But how would that help you?..think hard...
Don麓t be jeolous..you fell for a prick it happens to the best girls...in fact most good girls are with pricks in my experience.
But you know what after that they usually find the right one...don麓t ask me how its a pehenomena...but its true almost 100% of the time(look at my EX)
Just avoid the pricks....and please please...I CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH.
Don麓t take it out on the next guy..this is the sure fire way to end up alone. Remember the prick is the EX...the new guy is totally new and deserves the same chance as the prick.
Don麓t worry about the prick....guess what baby karma is real and everybody gets theres.
Cheer up...stay focused...don麓t be selfish but try and put yourself first when possible.
Thats all I can say...be strong...remember what doesn麓t kill us..........(thats right) now say it over and over.DESPERATE!! How can I deal with ex doing all the things to his new gf that he never did for me?
Keep yourself busy. If you are doing things with friends, dating, pursuing hobbies, working, etc....you don't have much time to dwell on what an ex did for you. You learned a valuable lesson that will serve you well in the future. Next time, you won't tolerate a guy that demands too much of you while giving little of himself.
this won't last soon enough he will be treating her the way he treated you....he is obv only doing it to get you annoyed and jealous....make sure you have no contact so you can't hear any stories of what he is doing next to try and get you jealous,,,its totally pathetic! as soon as he realises that you don't even hear about his pathetic games he will stop helping this other girl out and and it will be her on here asking this same question! move on he sounds like a total loser.
Wow, that's alot to go through ! Seriously though you need to wake up get over this jerk. I would definitely tell him how i feel though. Get your issues out the way. It doesn't matter if you talk to him in person or write him a letter, you just need to get your anger out in the open.Hes really done some damage and you need to let him know this but , open your eyes and realize what a *** he is . Your better then that.
You know what, that's how a lot of guys are. Sorry to say, but maybe he really loves this girl. Maybe he learned from you and rectified his mistakes towards her. The easiest way to move on is to completely lose contact with him. Erase him from your Myspace or Facebook, and erase his number. It will get better. The less you know about his life, the less you will feel jealous.
Don't worry about it. It's not your problem anyways. That guy was a jerk and you need to get a good paying job so I would try to take out a loan and work at the same time. Every human being needs to go to school and get an education in my view. You'll make it through and when you do find the right guy I'm positive that he will help you out.
Wow I'm so sorry to hear that and that really sucks. Well, try to take all that energy and get back into Grad school and finish your master or whatever it is. Good luck. =] Don't lose sleep or cry over a man.
You sound like a very sweet women who got tied up with a self centered jerk. Pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and move on. Write it off as a learning experience. There are guys going nuts to find a goal oriented unselfish women like yourself. Get out there and show yourself off!
Good luck!
who cares what he does for her he shouldnt be your concern anymore. work on going back to school and putting yourself first now dont worry about them. being angry and thinking back will never get you forward the best revenge is doing it all on your own.
Well, you should always put yourself first.. and ive been in this same situation. Guys only really only try to make there ex gfs jealous. So, get out and do things to get your mind off from him. You were to go fro him anyway (:
Hope i helped..
grad school? so ur no dummy... realize that someone like you shouldnt have a douchebag like that in their lives... go back to school... youll find another guy. Also, put yourself first always!!!!! dont ruin your life to fix someone elses.... unless your talking about your own children..then you come second.
You just need to get over him girl, if he didn't do good things for you while you were together, he just wasn't worth your time. Just get him out of your head and find a new man
Dont u think hes doing all that to the other girl just to make
you jealous? Sometimes that does happen.
YOU SHUD JUST like move on and pretend
to not care for him anymore.
the more U think about the things he does for the new gf,the more he thniks that he`s important for u.mind ur job,het him do whatever he wants to.let`s think that he hasn`t have this CHANCE to put you first!
oh just go back to school or fight them or try to get him back by spicing urself up and he';ll back down off of her probably
Get over him. He evidentally wasn't worth your time and will probably do the samething thing to her when the new wears off. You'll see, Just give it time.
It's life honey. I think we as women always wonder what we could have done different. Some people come in your life for a season and he must have been one of those.
Honey it had nothing to do with you. Just let go and be happy youre free to be with someone who can love and appreciate you when you find him :)
Good Luck.
um...I'm available.
Just know he won't keep it up forever, think, you get to go find a great new guy
he's doing that just to make you jealous.
Find a new boyfriend.
learn from your mistake and move on!
and DONT find a new guy asap. thats dumb
punch him in the face. youll feel alot better
Hey there,
Everyone has regrets..it's the worst I know. I regretted getting taken advantage of by my ex, and then she broke up with me. Damnnn, I felt screwed over. Listen, there's people that linger on negative things that happen in their past, and people that forget about it and learn lessons for the future. Only the people that learn the lessons ever grow and lead a happy, successful life. You need to be one of those people. I know it's harder than it sounds, but you have to forget about this dude. Who gives a crap what he's doing with this other girl. Focus on your own life, that will make you so much happier in the long run. Guaranteed.
I suggest reading ';The Greatness Guide'; by Robin Sharma, it's a brilliant book (with about 80x2 page chapters) that will completely change your perspective and allow you to focus on yourself.
Oh, and it's a good idea to cut everything about this dude out of your life. I promise I only became happy when i deleted her from facebook and msn, and focus on my own life and what I'm doing to prosper and become a happy person. You can escape all these negative thoughts, the angry and jealous feelings..just focus on your own life.
ummm... jealouse much!!!!??? no its ok i dont blame u if your jealouse even if its bad its not really ur fault (well kinda cuz u gave into him) but why dont you kick him in the balls it would make you feel a lot better thats if ur REALLLY desperate but i suggest u dont how does he act around her!? how does she act around him!!?? its best to kno these details becuz if they look real then he might really like her!!! but if they look fake like for example shes being tooo flirty and so is he and they take it overboard than he migh be trying to make you jealous as in the mean time maybe the girl is too cuz she wants him hers!!! but it all depends how they act around eachother!!! if it looks pretty much real (AND BE HONEST WITH URSELF) then ignore it:) but if it really looks like ther doin it on purpose then u really need to punch them both!!!
Just ignore them. You him are done you can't change the past. Find your self someone new
How do you know all of this? if he is telling you this then its all a lie... people don't go around telling there ex's this.. he is an idiot....he is a needy insecure man... and i hope you learned your lesson.. don;t EVER put a man before your self.... they will do nothing but take advantage...... I assure you its all Bull$hit!... he is insecure and wants to make him self feel better about him self by making you feel bad.... and your letting him! STOP!
Change your Number and Emails..... That's the best way to say F*ck You!
He will be the one crying!
Karma Always Comes Around sooner or later.... and it's always so sweet!
I have the opposite although same situation. My boyfriend treated his last girlfriend like a queen, buying her very expensive presents...bracelets, jewelry, sending a dozen roses, clothing and spendy cruises and also a wedding band. She broke up with him. We as a couple eat out a lot. He has helped me in other ways around my house, but nothing like the lavish attention he gave her. He said she was a beautiful beautiful girl. He comes up short of calling me pretty, but does call me cute. He calls me her name constantly. It's been 8 mns of dating. He denies she was his fiance although I know different. It hurts, I know. I came to the conclusion that if you are beautiful that is how men will treat you, but if you are only cute you get second rate attention. Yes, and I am jealous. I think he would go back to her in a heartbeat. You have every right to be angry. You were used so go with the anger and get it out. Let it be a lesson learned and move on. There are plenty of decent men and I mean MEN out there, so don't let this stop you in any way. In fact, I have learned a lot from your question. I am not alone. Good luck to you.
I agree that he's likely doing it specifically to make you jealous. Don't say a word about it to him, or let him catch wind of your feelings because he doesn't even deserve the satisfaction.
He's obviously a womanizing piece of garbage who only cares about his own wants, and that's why he took advantage of your grace and dedication and didn't reciprocate your effort back into the relationship the two of you shared.
It's clear you still carry feelings for him, and that really is a shame. It sounds like you have a lot to offer and I find it rather depressing that good women like you are so often left vastly unappreciated. Try to remind yourself that the failure of your relationship with this man had nothing to do with your own shortcomings, and that it basically boiled down to the failure of a single sociopath to return the respect and love someone else gave to him. That's not your fault, and the sooner you can truly believe that the better off you will be.
It's never too late to go back to college, by the way. Learning from your mistakes is what gives mistakes value. To let this one defeat you only makes two mistakes out of one.
Good luck.
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